If I hear this one more time...(rant)

Re: If I hear this one more time...(rant)

• [Deleted User]

  

  July 2012

  Hahaha  ironic that she works in the industry, isn't it?
  
  Luckily, we haven't heard this from anyone, even the few couples who have eloped/done JOP weddings. 
  

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• haleyrae7

  

  July 2012

  Yes!  I've heard it before! In fact, I even heard it from my FSIL right after we got engaged.  She also said, "I'll never get married! Marriage is for the birds!" and then a month after we got engaged, she did, and now their wedding is in 2 weeks!  
  

  She didn't want married so bad she pushed it up before ours! Lol

  
  

  

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• smilesavy member

  

  July 2012

  Oh i hear this all the time and it is typically from people who are married...like "why spend all that money" "you are thinking of every little detail" "or wow that is a lot you are doing".  Well chickadee...I am paying cash for my wedding without any contribution from anyone else so if that is how I want to spend my money you are damn well right I will spend my money that way.  And may just maybe I will look back in 30 years and say oh man, i wish I hadn't but right now I am having a damn good time doing it and it will be one hell of a party.  You had your day lady and now you want to rain on my parade because you are "so much wiser", tough crap I am gonna spend what I wanna spend and it shouldn't matter to anyone but my FI and I what the total bill is.
  
  <end rant />  Thank you

  

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• RichNicci4211122

  

  July 2012

  I too have heard this countless times, and probablly even more so since this is my 2nd marriage and FI's 3rd.  He had a huge wedding that his parents paid for and I got married by the JOP the 1st time aroung.  Well now that we are a little older and more financially sound we have paid for our wedding and it's the wedding that we want.  And that's what I tell people.  If they don't like what I have planned then don't come.  Just blow it off to bitter people who are jealous of you.  Enjoy the rest of your planning, the day that you have spend months planning and your new life together and don't worry what other think, because in the end it really doesn't matter.

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• [Deleted User] member

  

  July 2012

  I've heard this one a couple of times, mostly from people I don't know very well. Because of course, that's the best time to impart your views on someone, when you see their wedding ring and start a conversation about "oh, when are you getting married?" Oy.
  
  More often, though, I get "aren't you too young to get married?" from complete freaking strangers (the photographer doing my boudoir photos, most recently). No, I'm in my mid-twenties, stable, and we've been together for five years, thankyouverymuch. That one bugs me more, but at least it's only from strangers, not from family or people who actually know FI or I.

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• i2012do member

  

  July 2012

  I hear something similar to this from one of my BRIDESMAIDS!! yup.She was like "when its my Turn I will be sure to do something low key just my hubby and I and close friends and family- with all kidns of rustic and organic and make it totally eco friendly". Which is fine to express what you would like. but its always right after I ask her to help me with something or after she asks about something regarding my wedding- so it almost seems like its IN RESPONSE to what I am saying.
  OK...well let's wait and see when your time comes lady!....
  
  
  One of the things that bothers me is that i work in an office with one woman who has been married two times, and no longer "believes" in divorce. Another girl that is on her 3rd divorce! and then another lady who has two children with two dads w ho she dated briefly, then got marreid to a third guy and divorced,  Got engaged and broke it off, and most recently was talking about marriage with her live in boyfriend who she owns a home with- but now they are breaking up.
  
  So ya, they all look at me when I talk about marriage with sparkly eyes and get excited about it like I am an idiot and kind of roll their eyes. Liek they "know" better since they've all been divorced on Average- more than once.
  But I come froma  family that has parents that are still married and so does fiance- so its not what I have grown up with, so I'm not familiar w divorce.
  

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• i2012do member

  

  July 2012

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_august-2012-weddings_if-i-hear-this-one-more-timerant?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:1fb748ee-7a4e-40eb-b4b4-e553486f4cacDiscussion:f5d425d2-054e-4c11-905b-61cacfafe595Post:2a17b341-fdfc-4cec-8187-ad86d5a6d165">Re: If I hear this one more time...(rant)</a>:
  [QUOTE]Oh i hear this all the time and it is typically from people who are married...like "why spend all that money" "you are thinking of every little detail" "or wow that is a lot you are doing".  Well chickadee...I am paying cash for my wedding without any contribution from anyone else so if that is how I want to spend my money you are damn well right I will spend my money that way.  And may just maybe I will look back in 30 years and say oh man, i wish I hadn't but right now I am having a damn good time doing it and it will be one hell of a party.  You had your day lady and now you want to rain on my parade because you are "so much wiser", tough crap I am gonna spend what I wanna spend and it shouldn't matter to anyone but my FI and I what the total bill is. <end rant />  Thank you :)
  Posted by smilesavy[/QUOTE]
  
  i get this a lot too. from people I don't know. who tell me it is "fiscally irresponsible" you know what. since I was a little girl i dreamed of a wedding with famiyl and friends around to celebrate- and that sounds like a good way to spend my money.We have had 6 funerals in our immediate family in the last year. so we are DUE for a good time, ad a good time we will have!

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• gymbugmj2k member

  

  July 2012

  you know what -- weddings ARE stupid and spending all that money is a little nuts.  BUT WHEN IN YOUR LIFE DO YOU GET TO DO THIS!!???  you can't take the money with you when you die, so you might as well create one hell of an awesome memory with it!
  
  that being said - the wedding SHOULD be within your budget, and some people even postpone weddings so they can have a fancier event.  to each their own. everyone has their own idea about marriage - just like everyone has a different definition of Love.  it is obnoxious that you have to hear about it though.  I havent gotten ANY of those comments -- or maybe i have and i've completely ignored them. lol

  
  

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• 20pearls16 member

  

  July 2012

  I especially hear it since I have been married before. I always respond, I haven't been married to HIM before. I just wish folks who didn't have anything nice to say would just shut up. I have stopped talking about the wedding to folks for this very reson.

  

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• lb1212

  

  July 2012

  I got that a lot from my EX bridesmaid. Her family couldn't be bothered to show up at her wedding, so she told her husband that his family couldn't attend. It was just her, her husband, their witnesses aand the priest. I got lectures everytime I voiced concerns about wanting to make sure FMIL felt included. Unlike her, I WANT a good relationship with my inlaws.

  

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• ChristineNB

  

  July 2012

  I haven't really gotten those sorts of comments from anyone.  Most of our friends know that we are paying for the wedding ourselves, so obviously we aren't spending a ton, just what was within our means.

  

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