My MOH and other local BM are always at odds and exact opposite work schedules from me so its VERY difficult getting anything done...ever. As a "cancerian" I'm just prone to "if you want something done right, do it yoursefl" and I have NO problem doing it all. I know my other 3 OOT BMs are kind of phoning it in for my wedding and while my feelings are a little hurt, I'll deal, but I do feel like EVERYTHING shouldn't be my MOH's responsibility. $ is tight and she's spread pretty thin so the hubs and I were at iParty and picked up some really cool square plastic plates, and then some napkins, and cutlery, and some tablecoths....oh and ok, i picked up a few vases from $ tree too for centerpieces. I knew she'd be mad at me for helping, but I thought she'd get over it and appreciate that I'm trying to help, besides those plates are REALLY cool. What made it worse is when I told her my hubs was gonna hook up the flowers through his fave place to go (LA VIE EN ROSE). MY MOH FLIPPED OUT!!!!!!!!!! I got scolded and yelled at for most of my day today. It was bad. Was I so wrong to want to help out? I think she's more pissed that I ruined "her vision", but it is supposed to be MY party??? I dunno, I'm not a big wedding person, so I don't understand all the rules . Comments????