BRIDESMAID /GROOMS MEN QUESTION

IFEFAD · May 2010

Hey ladies, I wanted to know if you ladies did anything special for your bridesmaid and maid of honor when you informed them that you wanted them to be part of your wedding party. They all have an idea that they will be in the wedding but I wanted to do something special. I was thinking of sending each one of them a cute little bridesmaid’s book along with a card, telling them I would love for them to be in my bridal party. I had 4 brides’ maids that I was thinking off and am not down to 3. So I will have 3 bridesmaids and a maid of honor….. Any suggestions?

Also, how should my fiance let his friends know he wants them to be his groomsmen? His ass just wants to call them and am like... NO Smooches

missrekaeagle · May 2010

I'm boring and I just called my sis and my cousin to let them know they are both MOHs. They kind of figured they were in the BP anyway so I didn't feel the need to do something cute. Maybe if I had some other ppl in the BP I would have done something different, but who knows.

I don't even think FI has told his GM. He's such a slacker and he's acting like we didn't move the wedding up. I'm sure he'll just call them though because guys don't really do cute things for each other.

NeColeMonet · May 2010

Lol. I guess I lost all sense of wedding etiquette because I basically TOLD my friends they were gonna do it. I only have four and I knew they would want to. My FI did the same thing for his groomsmen.

cincy2011 · May 2010

yeah I had great intentions of DIY-ing some really cute "will you be my BM?" cards, sending little mini-wedding cakes, etc. But NONE of that happened - LOL.

My BMs are all so close to me they already knew they would be in it. So I just confirmed and told them I was looking for dresses for them, etc.

FI did inform his sister that she would be a BM, but I think she figured that anyway.

FI hasn't asked (or told) his GMs yet and he already told me he's just going to call them. I agree with Reka- men don't usually do cutesy, thoughtful things like we do!

wheatney22 · May 2010

I did invitation cards for the bridesmaids and matron of honor (let me know if you want to see pics).

FI didn't want to do anything for his groomsmen so he just called and asked them.

IFEFAD · May 2010

I think i will just send them cards, lol.... Times are hard

The hubby will probably just called them

wheatney22 · May 2010

Here's a link of what I did. Posted it a while back.

http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/cultural-wedding-boards_african-american-weddings_1st-2nd-check-bridal-party-invitation-pip

luckyinloveaz · May 2010

I asked all my (3) sisters the day we went looking for my dress, they all wanted to be there. So instead of call them individually I thought once I had them all together it would be fine.One of my closest friend's also went with us so I told her that day too. I have a sister in NYC so I asked her while we were talking thru skype. Nothing fancy at all.

FI- doesnt want to have any groomsmen, this is still up for debate. I dont see how me having 5 ladies on my side and FI having my 2 sons and his son (ages 6,13,15) will look right, plus I am having 2 flower girls. Very uneven. UGH

TysWife2Be · May 2010

I just asked each one of them...

I didnt wanna do it like that but I did what I felt in my heart...and thats how it came out...

winter443 · May 2010

I didn't do anything special. My girls pretty much knew they were going to be my bridesmaids whenever I got married. My FI told his groomsmen they were going to be in the wedding.

amberlynned · May 2010

I've known all of my bridesmaids since elementry school so I bought a keepsake box, stuffed it with red paper, put in a bottle of cheap but tasty champagne and wrote on an empty card, "Will you be my bridesmaid? Check one: yes no"
Kind of a play on those "do you like me" notes you pass in grade scool :P

JKeyes2011 · May 2010

I just sent all of mine either facebook messages or text messages asking them except for my MOH who already knew it was her job since we were in middle school. I just told her the day was actually going to come.

IFEFAD · May 2010

Hey Ladies,

so i spent the whole day doing research and ran across this site. I was able to personalize each card (maid of honor-Bestfriend, 3 brides maid (2 friend and one cousin), and also got the cards mailed directly to their houses.

http://www.greetingcarduniverse.com/-Cousin+Will+You+Be+My+Bridesmaid+--+Rose+Bouquet-greeting+card-424133?pid=424133&page=1&ref=cb_card_title

I was able to get this card and each one was address to the Maid of Honor, 2Friend, and cousin. Pretty neat site

MsTee0129 · May 2010

i was told that its traditional etiquette that the man picks the number...my FI was married b4 and in his previous wedding he had 8 groomsmen...i'm like damn i don't want to deal with 8 girls...? also he a two sisters one he's really close with so he's like she'll expect to b on of the BM? WHAT SHOULD I DO? im still not sureif i want BM

KMB611 · May 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/cultural-wedding-boards_african-american-weddings_bridesmaid-grooms-men-question?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Cultural Wedding BoardsForum:400Discussion:f1e10753-0494-4a72-b1f3-8469dc5fd849Post:62de12e8-00cc-4a6f-8a95-7aefb28c212b">BRIDESMAID /GROOMS MEN QUESTION</a>:
[QUOTE]Hey ladies, I wanted to know if you ladies did anything special for your bridesmaid and maid of honor when you informed them that you wanted them to be part of your wedding party. They all have an idea that they will be in the wedding but I wanted to do something special. I was thinking of sending each one of them a cute little bridesmaid’s book along with a card, telling them I would love for them to be in my bridal party. I had 4 brides’ maids that I was thinking off and am not down to 3. So I will have 3 bridesmaids and a maid of honor….. Any suggestions? Also, how should my fiance let his friends know he wants them to be his groomsmen? His ass just wants to call them and am like... NO Smooches
Posted by IFEFAD[/QUOTE]

The card idea you have is cute. I wanted to do that but didn't have time to make the cards and when I found some in the card shop, there were 8 in a pack.

PB-Bride2010 · May 2010

I mail them will you be my BM card, but I told them I had something special coming their way!

mnm729 · May 2010

I too made "Will you be my bridesmaid" cards for each of them. There are ton of poems online. I found a different one for each BM and personalized them to suit our relationship.

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