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WR: Big Family Wedding or Small Beach Wedding?

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My FI and I have decided to push our wedding back due to trying to save for a house, and saving for both was becoming way too stressful. I have been thinking a lot, and am debating on getting married on a beach somewhere and having the honeymoon at the same time, or still having a huge hometown wedding. Does it save money to have a small beach wedding and a huge party after coming home from the HM?
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  • aerinpegadrakaerinpegadrak member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_wr-big-family-wedding-small-beach-wedding?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:7e4b1a3c-1f03-4253-97a1-96708903f93cPost:e58c61c9-71e5-438a-a704-92861f4d89e8">WR: Big Family Wedding or Small Beach Wedding?</a>:
    [QUOTE]My FI and I have decided to push our wedding back due to trying to save for a house, and saving for both was becoming way too stressful. I have been thinking a lot, and am debating on getting married on a beach somewhere and having the honeymoon at the same time, or still having a huge hometown wedding. <strong>Does it save money to have a small beach wedding and a huge party after coming home from the HM?</strong>
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    No, considering that the reception is by far the most expensive part of the whole shebang.
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  • sister2groomsister2groom
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    The expensive part of a wedding is usually the big party reception, so, no, I don't really see how that would save money. If you want family and friends to celebrate with you, why not have a modest hometown wedding and reception?
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  • pizzanfries4mepizzanfries4me
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    My H and I were sort of in the same boat as you - we decided to have a Vegas wedding (friends and family came w/ and had their own vacation too) it was much cheaper then having a wedding back here (and as I understand it, it is the receptions that are crazy expensive) I personally would vote for go to the beach! Have a great time and come back and have a party, thats what we did. We had a nice bbq style party with volleyball and people in jeans, very casual and a great time was had by all.
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  • noodle_oonoodle_oo member
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    If you do the small beach wedding and skip the big, expensive reception at home, then yeah you'll probably save money. But if you try to do both, then I think it is actaully even more expensive.  You have to decide 1) what is worth it to you and 2) if you do the DW, can you accept the consequences that go with that?  Like if you do a DW, you cannot have a big bridal shower with lots of gifts (you can only invite those you invite to the DW). It is when you try to have it all that you will be disappointed.
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    >>Does it save money to have a small beach wedding and a huge party after coming home from the HM?

    Here's who saves money if you do that:  the people who weren't invited to the actual ceremony and who are now being invited to a gift-dropoff "party."  I know no one who goes to those AHR-things anymore.  People get the invitation, which basically tells them that they weren't close enough to participate in the actual event, but they ARE close enough to buy a big gift, and they send a card.  Sometimes with a check in it, and most often not.

    So I would suggest that you have a Big Family Wedding or a Small Family Wedding, where everyone invited can come to the ceremony AND the reception.  And YES, it's possible to have a Small Family Wedding.  We only invited parents and siblings and a handful of friends, and got married right in the home town.  Only one couple said they were disappointed at not being invited, and I don't really understand that since we have never done anything socially with them and we've never been over to their place and they'd never been to our place, etc.
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  • LuluP82LuluP82 member
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    The only reason this saves money is usually the AHR is super casual. You could just have a more casual wedding/reception in the first place, and that would save you even more money, and still allow you to do things that come along with a hometown wedding, like a big shower.

    Look, it should really be about what you want. If you want a DW, then have one. If you want a hometown wedding, though, just make it more casual and it will cost the same as an AHR.
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