I knew we should have just gone to Vegas!

ninaelizabeth3 · July 2012

I have yet another vent...

Now, my shower is this weekend and I've been trying to not be involved unless my mom asked me something about it. (It is being hosted by my mom and grandmother.) I have 2 MOH and 4 BM. My sister, a MOH, and mom thought it would be polite to ask the girls if they wanted to go in on a group gift. So they all agree and pitch in to buy something, I have no idea what. Turns out when they went to purchase the intended item, my aunt had already bought it. So my sister lets everyone know that the orignial gift was purchased, would it be ok to use the same money towards something else, this was 2 weeks ago, I'm told. FOUR days before the shower my sister and mom get a snarky text from my other MOH saying she understands they meant well but that her money was for the orignial gift and she's not happy something else was purhcased because that was supposed to be her part of the gift from her. And she wants her money back. So now my mom has to come up with the difference to cover her cost so the other girls don't have to shell out more money because of one person at the last minute. And apparently it wasn't a small amount. Then she sends me a text that says: "I gave your sister $ to buy you a part of a group shower gift. What does she buy? Something else. Was I asked? No. Pissed? Yes."

Ok. here's my first possible bridezilla moment...Why are you involving me?!? I'm the bride! *end bridezilla moment*

So here I'm thinking that my sister got another tattoo or something with her money. No, the money was used for something else on my registry. It's not like they took half the money, bought a gift and pocketed the rest while saying, "hahaha we're really going to screw them now!"

I'm trying to not be pissed, but I have enough crap/stress to deal with, I don't need to play referee to grown adults. I know she was told about the change because I saw the response saying "sure."!!! And if you've seen any of my other posts, it's not the first issue with her. Am I missing something? My gosh...

cokie216 · July 2012

Yeah that would really piss me off too if I was being involved in that unnecessary drama. I don't understand why she's so upset about that and really what was the point of telling you? Just remember life will go back to normal after the wedding. I am looking forward to that!

LDubHawksFan · July 2012

I don't get why she is so pissed and that sucks for the other girls and your mom. Try to stay out of it....

NRod70 · July 2012

Ummm, yea. Why is she pissed and WHY are you involved in this?! I hope everything calms down and you are able to enjoy your shower...

goatlady12 · July 2012

I think it sucks that they are involving you at all on this! It's about presents they bought you. You have enough to worry about, you shouldn't have to worry about people fighting over the presents they got you. It's actually inappropriate to involve you. My showers aren't until September and if I run into any of this nonsense I will tell them to shut their cakeholes!

[Deleted User] · July 2012

Ugh, I am so over BMs with sucky communication skills who feel the need to talk to the bride instead of the actual people involved! I have a similar issue with one of mine. I totally understand!

ninaelizabeth3 · July 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_october-2012-weddings_i-knew-we-should-have-just-gone-to-vegas?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:56b9bcef-1e34-456e-81f5-cfaa107456b2Discussion:acb31800-ce3a-49d4-a12d-5f9cf9a68e69Post:e8c91543-018c-4777-8d3d-a82d32e72f81">Re: I knew we should have just gone to Vegas!</a>:
[QUOTE]I think it sucks that they are involving you at all on this! It's about presents they bought you. You have enough to worry about, you shouldn't have to worry about people fighting over the presents they got you. It's actually inappropriate to involve you. My showers aren't until September and if I run into any of this nonsense I will tell them to <strong>shut their cakeholes! </strong>
Posted by Seipel12[/QUOTE]

Ha I love this.

And my mom is super peeved that she text messaged me about it to begin with.

Alisha9544 · July 2012

Yeah I don't really get why she's so mad. It was still used towards a group gift. But I think it's kinda crappy she's involving you. I had a similar issue I posted about yesterday. Why do they think we want their stress on top of ours?

Lang125 · July 2012

Besides involving you when she shouldn't, she also was criticizing your own sister to you. That is what would piss me off even more - like you are going to yell at your sister over this when she was doing the MOH a favor in the first place. Sometimes people need a filter.

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