Encouragment needed

Re: Encouragment needed

• CaseynMike

  

  January 2013

  First woo sahhhhhh. You guys are 14 months out which is a good bit away. I understand wanting to lock down a venue in time. How many did you all go visit? Do you think maybe you could talk the manager at the venue and see if they will let your deposit go towards a shower? or luncheon? How many people does he need to accomodate in his family? Talk to him and see what places he thinks he would be interested in looking at so that you all could accomodate the family. HTH..

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• MrsBad13 member

  

  January 2013 edited January 2013

  SOS for Cha! I agree with pp. 1st tell FI to RELAX...RELATE...RELEASE...planning a wedding CAN be done in 6 months..idk how but it can just ask creolebride. Tell him to keep in mind even tho the space might not accomodate everyone...eveyone is not going to come. You will have people who will say they're coming and not show and vice versa. Tell him that the more time you have the better. Like most of us brides im sure you're doing most of the leg work . Tell him you are not trying to be stress to the max and that you need all the time to you can get. Maybe really sit down with him and explain to him all that goes into planning the wedding that you want and how the money is going to be disbursed. Ask him does he want to pay little payments now or big payments later ? Hopefully Cha can chime in and give some more pointers. It will be ok and everything will work out !

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• keyaira04 member

  

  January 2013

  Man, I remember being 14 mos out...it was not long ago...

  
  

  I also agree that Cha will give her wisdom to add to the convo and the great advice above. 

  
  

  Another thought is you working solo for a bit to get some ideas and thoughts together. This is a great time to do research on vendors and go to bridal shows since wedding season is approaching...which you don't really need FI for right now. I agree with you on planning starting like a year out. So my pitch to FI was at the 12 month mark, could we have a family discussion about the basics...budget, guest list, date...just so I could conduct more research that is focused. This way, I was not 'bugging him' about wedding stuff all the time, but about to gather and bring him solid ideas. That went well for me. During this time, you will figure out how involved he intent to be in the wedding process. 

  
  

  I hope this helps, lady. 

  

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• tirathemrs member

  

  January 2013

  I agree with all the ladies....RELAX AND BREATH HONEY, my FI is kinda the same way hes not getting too involved right now, im the one researching and looking around at different things but i am letting him knw the important things like which venue i do want us to look at and certain info ref the photog and things like that...so trust me i understand but like PP said you may just need to do your researching and get him involved on the year mark......and you may want to talk to the venue that you choose and see what they can do to either give you money back or have your shower there or something like that.....HTH you are in my prayers honey

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  

  
  

  
  

  

  
  

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• thedivav member

  

  January 2013

  mumbles that yella nicca i am engaged to thinks this too i am ready to kill him but i digress 

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