Hi everyone,
How have you all been handling all the wedding questions? Like the friends that just keep asking about every little detail. I mean I don't mind letting people know what we're thinking, but I'd like to have some of it be a surprise. I also would like the opportunity to change my mind. I guess I am wondering what a polite way to say "we have some ideas, but I don't want to spill it all before the wedding" is.
Also just to vent a little, I had one friend come to my engagement party, where the gifts were optional, nothing on the invite or anything about gifts. Some people brought them, some didn't. So my friend asks if we are opening them in front of everyone, like at a bridal shower. I said no, it was an optional thing and I wouldn't want to make those that did not bring a gift feel bad. She said... "normally at these things you open gifts in front of your guests. I like to see people's reactions when they open my gifts." I didn't know what to say, except for "B*tch, please". But did not say that lol.
I've had other times where I told people what we were doing, then changed my mind about some wedding detail. I've had friends tell me to stop changing my mind so they can coordinate their time at the wedding... really?
Anyway what I getting at is, sometimes people ask for details, then I tell them, then they pass judgement. What's your strategy? Do you just not tell them?