Shower at Work

tnwatts24 · January 2010

My co-workers are planning a wedding shower for me at work, but I'm not inviting any of them to the wedding! There are about 50 people in my office and there would be no possible way that I could fit that many people in to my budget! Is it rude that I'm not inviting them and they are throwing me a shower?

SteveandKris · January 2010

1) You could always decline the shower

2) They still may want to celebrate with you. Pull aside the person organizing the shower and tell her that you are having an very small wedding. She may tell you that its ok and they want to throw the shower anyways. If this is the case, send the office a nice gift (think chocolates or goodie basket or something) to arrive the monday you leave for the honeymoon.

danieliza1127 · January 2010

Work showers are the execption to the rule. It's okay to have one and not invite your co-workers.

amlaplante · January 2010

It's fine to have a work shower if you aren't inviting them. I'd feel a little weird about it too, but just make sure they know that it's a very small wedding and you will only be inviting family and close friends.

erin.kummer · January 2010

I'm going through the same thing. But I'm not the 1st in our office and probably won't be the last. There are a total of 150 people so it is impossible for me to invite everyone. I'm inviting the people I hang out with/ have lunch with but no one else to the wedding. The girl throwing my shower said she didn't care and it's more to congratulate me than to bring me presents. Co-workers are bringing different dishes and we're just going to have a casual lunch.

ColeMess5802 · January 2010

I am a teacher and it is a tradition to throw people a bridal or even baby shower. They do it as a nice gesture on their own. They want to show their happiness for you. They know they are ALL NOT invited to the wedding. So I think it is OK to have them throw you a shower. Most of the time they provide cake and snacks and give wishign well types of gifts. It is also important for you to thank them. We typically bring in bagels or some type of food as a thank you the next day.

cinderblock23 · January 2010

It's totally fine. In my dept at the office we celebrate everything under the sun. Every birthday, bridal showers, baby showers, and even a party when people leave the company.
No one expects to be invited to the wedding, we always throw a party for them anyway.

Tine_r19 · January 2010

One of the ladies at my work asked me if she could throw me a Bridal Shower at work. I told her if she really wanted to that it was fine with me (they would do it anyways no matter what I said.) It's a tradition that when ever there is a wedding or new baby everyone does a kind of pot luck and have a shower. I believe most of the time co-workers understand that they are not going to be invited to the wedding. The only time I would feel uncomfortable is if I was the one telling someone to throw one for me.

shericamarie · January 2010

I think we all agree it is okay to have a work shower. Even if you may be inviting one or two close friends from the office, everybody likes to celebrate a take a little extra time during the day to sip punch and slack off.

angie74 · January 2010

I would probably ask whoever is throwing it to request no gifts, just something to hang out and have fun

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