How matchy matchy are your bridesmaids? Groomsman?

hannahmassey · April 2012

Dress, shoes, accessories? Different shoes, same dress? Same dress, different shoes? Same accessories or just same color accessories? Do the groomsman even have a choice? What would their choices be? Practicality over visual impact? Which looks better in the wedding and the photos? I don't know how to choose. I haven't been to a wedding since I was 12 so I haven't seen the difference first hand.

DeannaCW · April 2012

I was fine with diffferent styles for bridesmaids, let them choose their own dress, and they all chose same one. They decided on their own to coordinate and get white shoes. Jewelry, hair, etc they can select.

As for the guys, FI wanted them all in kilts, but all but the BM said no. So it'll be him, BM, and his dad in kilts, the rest in suits. And I don't even know if we're renting or having them bring their own! :P

SCogs18 · April 2012

Bridesmaids: My bridesmaids are wearing the same long gown in the same color. Since the dress is long, I told them they could wear any silver shoe (heel or flat) they wanted. As for accessories, I am undecided at this point. I will either buy them matching jewelry or ask them to wear a set of (real or fake) pearls. They all already own them. All of their bouquets will be the same as well. My bridesmaids live all over the country, so I only went shopping with my MOH. I e-mailed everyone else a picture to make sure we were all happy. I picked the dress.

Groomsmen/Ushers/Fathers: They will all be wearing the same black tux as FI. FI will have a white bow tie/vest while they will have black bow ties/vests. FI/my dad will have a white boutonniere and everyone else will wear a red one.

We made sure to ask every member of the bridal party their budget privately and went with the lowest for the ladies and the lowest for the men.

As for "visual impact" that is a very personal preference. I am very traditional, so I never considered letting my girls pick their own dresses and I am happy with my choice. I think it looks sharp and I will stand out. However, some people find that a little "dated" and letting them pick their own dresses is definitely a new trend these days. If you let them pick their own, I would suggest you dictate the length/color/fabric.

ccarrion77 · April 2012

I picked the color asked that they were the same fabric and length, up to them if it was knee or long, as long as they were the same I didn't care same with the fabric. I did say I had to approve the dress, but that turn out to be unnecessary, I love what the each pick out! Sliver shoes b/c they both already have a pair. One of my BMs hates necklaces so I didn't pick there jewelry, they both have good taste so I trust them. I really wanted them to get dresses that they could wear again and they liked.

My FI picked out the groomsman's tux, We're not doing colorful vest or ties or anything so it was pretty straight forward.

Agree with PP that visual impact is a personal preference. I've been to weddings were the BMs were all in different dresses and I always thought it looked better b/c everyone's dress fit there body type. Which was important to me b/c it would be hard for my BM's bodies to be any more different haha.

Hope this helps!

dewingedpixie · April 2012

I will have all the bridesmaids in the same dress in purple. The groomsmen black tuxes with green vests and ties and purple boutineres. The ladies will wear black shoes and since I'm leaning towards long dresses I dont care what the shoes look like as long as they're formal. I'm trying to find a way to incorporate green into the bridesmaids as well either jewlery, hair, or possibly the flowers they carry. I have 18 months though to figure that out. My favorite color is purple, his is green hence the color choices. The stone for my engagement ring that we're having set is also these colors purple inside and then it goes green outside.

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SugarFoote · April 2012

We are doing something similar to this for the BMs.

Laurahan1127 · April 2012

My BMs are all in the same dress and wearing the shoes we bought for my MOH's wedding (the wedding party all overlaps), so they match too, but the girls already had them. I probably would have just given them a color and let them pick out there own if that hadn't been the case. I bought them necklaces and earrings that match, too. They will end up looking pretty identical except for their hair, which they can have my stylist do however they want her to. My girls also all have pretty similar body types though, so it was easy for me. If I couldn't find a single dress that they all were comfortable in and felt flattered by, I definitely would have at least given options, if not let them pick entirely on their own.

Our groomsmen are all in black suits. FI and 3 of the GM bought identical suits, one already had one that is really close that he is going to wear, and one is 12 years old and too small for a men's suit, so I bought him something similar in a boy's size. We bought them black ties, and they are all wearing whatever white dress shirts and black shoes they already have. They all seemed happier with buying suits than renting tuxes. They spent the same amount and got something they can keep.

Habs2Hart · April 2012

My girls all wore the same purple dress (even though they were allowed to pick out their own style) and whatever black shoes they owned. They wore their hair/makeup/jewellery however they wanted. Their flowers all were the same.

The men all rented black tuxes and the GMs had silver vest and tie and H had a white vest/tie. Their bouts had a flower from the girls' bouquets and H had a flower from my bouquet.

The fathers wore whatever they wanted. Never asked and I never told them what to wear and they looked great.

mrszeno34 · April 2012

My girls are all wearing different black dresses - I didn't limit fabric, length or style, just whatever they liked. Shoes and jewelry are up to them. The men are wearing black tuxes with champagne colored vest and tie, groom is wearing a black vest and tie.
The girls will all have the same flowers, stems wrapped in black, the men will have the same flowers all wrapped in black except groom's will be wrapped in ivory...

adktd2boots · April 2012

I just said "brown, preferrably not taffeta" for the bridesmaids and the guys will wear blue jeans and Cinch shirts, in Tan

egeurts · April 2012

My girls are all wearing the same dress in the same purple color. Girls could choose their own shoes so long as they're silver. We're all getting our hair done, but I don't care what style they choose, and I gave them the option as to whether they wanted to have it done professionally or do it themselves- they all chose to come to the salon with me on the morning of the wedding. They all have matching bouquets.

The groomsmen are perfectly matching- black tuxes, green vests, and green bowties. FI stands out just a little, he also has a black tux but its a different style and he has an ivory vest and bowtie. My Dad is also wearing a black tux and I'm not sure whether he's wearing a vest or shirt or what his deal is. I let him do whatever he wanted, but I told him what the other guys were doing so that he could decide. FI's Dad is buying a suit.

megsch88 · April 2012

My girls are all in the same dress. I told them to get brown heels, but they can pick out whatever style heels and accessories they want. The only thing I picked out was the dress.

All groomsmen, FOB, FOG, and ring bearer are wearing the same color tux.

Ash61612 · April 2012

bridesmaids: picked what dress they wanted to wear in the tangerine color from DB; and they are each picking their own shoes in the decided color we all choose

groomsmen: 3 of the 4 will be in their military dress uniforms, the last will be in a black tux w/ black cumberbun and bow tie

FI: will be in black tux w/ high cottom orange endzone cumberbun and bow tie matching the orange in the BM's dress

blgrout · April 2012

My BMs are wearing the same color dresses but in different styles (I only requested that they not be floor length and in cornflower blue), and nude pumps of their choosing. Hair/jewelry/makup is all up to them.

Our GM, groom, fathers and ring bearer are all wearing the same tux, and all but my FI are wearing a cornflower blue vest and tie to match the BMs. My FI will have a black tie and vest, per his request.

LinD25 · April 2012

I am just giving my girls a color and letting them pick out the dress and all accessories. As far as the guys, I want them in grey and FI in a darker grey. Tie in color of the BM's dresses. FI in a tie that's a lighter version of the BM's dresses.

hannahmassey · April 2012

All great ideas. I think I'll either give them a color and length for the dress and pick the legwear and shoes OR I'll pick the dress and give them a color for shoes. And I think I'll just limit jewelry to pearls.

theholograms · April 2012

My bridesmaids are all wearing the same dress, but they are wearing whatever shoes they want (in black), and while I am paying for their hair and make-up I am letting them pick whatever style they want.

I also don't care what jewelry they wear the day of - leaving that up to them.

The guys are all wearing the same suit.

DanniLynn88 · April 2012

My bridesmaids are in different dresses, same color, same length, and style-ish, but not the same exact dress. The shoes are different bc I didn't want them spending a ton of money on shoes they will never wear again. My groomsmen bought the suits to match, different color than groom, groomsmen in charcoal, groom in black. They are in different shirts, ties, and shoes, just same color style, so it will look very similar. I think it will look very nice. My MOH's wedding is in June and she has bridesmaids in all different dresses just same color, and short dresses. Her groomsmen will wear the same shirt and pants though.

random4180 · April 2012

My BMs are wearing whatever dress they want in a knee-length and solid jewel-tone color. Those are the only limitations they have and they actually wanted those because they were worried they might clash otherwise. I just want them to be comfortable, they can pick whatever they want for hair or shoes or jewelry- that stuff's not really my thing anyway and they're all over the place geographically and different sizes, ages, and races...I would be miserable trying to dress someone else so I wasn't going to try!

The guys haven't decided yet but I know FI wants to wear a tux and I imagine the other guys will go that route too. Not sure how many of them own suits and it's a lot harder to find suit rentals than it is to find tuxes so I thing we're gonna go with that option.

I think for us practicality won out over any kind of attempt for style points...I mean, it's an August wedding- everyone being relatively comfortable is the biggest concern. I'm not wearing heels, I hate shoes that I can't wear socks with when it's hot out. I'm wearing my hair up because I can't stand hair on the back of my neck in the summer so why would I dictate things like shoes or hair or dresses? That's how I've looked at it anyway, with my limited wedding experience.

lilbitbeaker · April 2012

all my bridesmaids will be wearing the same dress in the same color
I will be making them necklaces (labradorite and crystal. the crystal color will vairy depending on the girl).
they can wear whatever shoes they want

the groomsmen will be wearing kahki colored slacks with a white button down shirt and a tie the color of the bridesmaid dresses

no ushers because there is no assigned seating (no brides side/grooms side, etc)

very very casual

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