Garter & Bouquet toss. Do it or Don't do it

brandym22 · January 2012

I was reading this website and it got me thinking...Are garter removal, toss, and bouquet toss traditions dying?? http://www.mydeejay.com/blog/2009/08/bouquet-toss-should-you-do-it-should-i-do-it-dying-traditions/

Meegles4 · January 2012

Dying. Can't remember the last time I saw one. Then again, I'm nearly 31 and most of my friends are married, so the whole contingent of single people that would do these things is lessening, so perhaps that's why it's dying in my circles.

emarston1 · January 2012

We did them and I've never been to a wedding that didn't. But I think it entirely depends on the preferences of the bride and groom. And as PP pointed out, if you don't have a lot of single people at your wedding, the B&G might elect not to do it.

brandym22 · January 2012

That's kind of where I am at. My cousin did it at her wedding in October and there was not many single girls or guys there. And I think even less will be at my wedding.... I don't want to do it, and have it look like a total flop... That would be embarrassing. I think maybe I might just put my fiancé on the spot with the removal And have him keep it? Possible take my bouquet apart, and give the roses to moms, gmas, and aunts. ?? Still not sure...

Milsey32 · January 2012

We did them because there were a lot of single people at our wedding. I was really hesitant at first but it was fine and fun.

baileyleev · January 2012

I've never been to a wedding that didn't have them...but we aren't donig it. I don't think we'll have that many single people there, and to be honest, I HATE when I get pulled onto the dance floor for these at other peoples weddings.

We will be doing an anniversary dance instead.

entropicbeauty · January 2012

Not my style, I think it would make me really really uncomfortable and I don't think it adds enough to the wedding to force me to do it.

Klyn1983 · January 2012

We're not doing it. I know a few of my older family members will be upset, but I'm not going to embarrass my MOH or the handful of other single guests. Besides, I'm not doing a traditional bouquet so I don't want to have to go buy one to just throw around.

FI is against the whole garter thing too.

(We also are not doing the Dollar Dance-I hate those.)

brandym22 · January 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_michigan-detroit_garter-bouquet-toss-dont?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:88Discussion:7c585ed6-3c26-43d6-9789-a2f22bfb12caPost:cf0ddcf3-4cf1-4081-be19-95ab12faea7c">Re: Garter & Bouquet toss. Do it or Don't do it</a>:
[QUOTE]We're not doing it. I know a few of my older family members will be upset, but I'm not going to embarrass my MOH or the handful of other single guests. Besides, I'm not doing a traditional bouquet so I don't want to have to go buy one to just throw around. FI is against the whole garter thing too. (We also are not doing the Dollar Dance-I hate those.)
Posted by Klyn1983[/QUOTE]

I'm with you on the dollar dance.

carpediem27 · January 2012

We aren't doing it. My sister did both, but I am mainly against the garter retrieval. Not something I'm comfortable with. My cousin did just a bouquet toss but it seemed awkward doing just that without the garter too, so we are skipping them both.

db1985 · January 2012

We are doing the Bouquet toss, but not the garter. I have a lot of single friends and cousins, so I want to do it, but with a twist. I am getting a small toss bouquet and whoever catches it will get the small bouquet and a $25-$30 gift card for Victoria Secret or Sephora or something.

The whole garter thing creeps me out and then its really awkward when the 2 have to dance together....

emarston1 · January 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_michigan-detroit_garter-bouquet-toss-dont?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:88Discussion:7c585ed6-3c26-43d6-9789-a2f22bfb12caPost:99e00e79-dbeb-4caa-84ef-c9ed21396cab">Re: Garter & Bouquet toss. Do it or Don't do it</a>:
[QUOTE]We are doing the Bouquet toss, but not the garter. I have a lot of single friends and cousins, so I want to do it, but with a twist. I am getting a small toss bouquet and whoever catches it will get the small bouquet and a $25-$30 gift card for Victoria Secret or Sephora or something. The whole garter thing creeps me out and <strong>then its really awkward when the 2 have to dance together....
</strong>Posted by db1985[/QUOTE]
They don't have to dance together. We did bouquet and garter and there was no dancing, no putting the garter on the girl who caught the bouquet or any of that.

Allycat11 · January 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_michigan-detroit_garter-bouquet-toss-dont?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:88Discussion:7c585ed6-3c26-43d6-9789-a2f22bfb12caPost:db967c9c-13f5-438e-adea-23959aaecad9">Re: Garter & Bouquet toss. Do it or Don't do it</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Garter & Bouquet toss. Do it or Don't do it : <strong>They don't have to dance together. We did bouquet and garter and there was no dancing, no putting the garter on the girl who caught the bouquet or any of that.
</strong>Posted by emarston1[/QUOTE]

I've never seen them dance together and the only time I saw the guy who caught the garter put it on the girl who caught the bouquet was because they happened to be in a long term relationship.

I definitely think it is a dying tradition, but I have never been to a wedding that did not do them both. We did not have a ton of single people, so we considered not doing it...especially because I thought the single guys coming, wouldn't be into it. Almost every single guy went out for it and they actually battled for it more than the girls. Most single girls went out for it, and let my 8 year old neice catch it because she was SO excited.

rcj2rcd · January 2012

We didn't do either, NMS. SIL did a bouquet toss, and she added a bunch of lotto tickets to the bouquet - there were lots of girls on the floor trying to catch it! But this is the only time I've seen a successful bouquet toss - most of the time it's just awkward.

acaponi87 · January 2012

Im probably going to do a bouquet toss since I got a free toss bouquet & there will be a lot of single ladies. No way are we doing the garter. I think it's creepy

larzhope · January 2012

we didn't do either... We don't have a lot of single friends, and honestly, the thought of H going up my dress in front of tons of my old Italian relatives made me SUPER uncomfortable. no thank you!

Jacks2913 · January 2012

This is one tradition we're skipping! I don't have very many single friends and I don't want to put anyone in an awkward situation/have it become a big flop because no one wants to participate. Since I get a free toss bouquet, we're going to do the anniversary dance. If you're not familiar, it's when all the married couples are invited to dance to a slow song. During the song, the DJ will eliminate couples by how long they've been married until the couple that's been married the longest is left. The winners will get the bouquet. I hope this helps!!!

Jashley05 · January 2012

We only did a bouquet toss. I wasn't about to have my husband all up my dress with everyone watching. I decided to do a twist on the bouquet toss and invited all the ladies, single or married up to catch the bouquet. We had a really good turn out and the flower girl actually caught the bouquet. You can tell from the pictures that it made her night! Don't feel like you have to stick to tradition. Make up your own!

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