I have 4 bridesmaids, a maid of honour, matron of honour and a gay friend who will be a groomsmen. (A Big Wedding Party) I have been trying really hard to be flexible and to do what's best for everyone. Three half of my maids and my gay friend live in other cities, 3 of the 4 that live here have kids under 2, one of which is a new born and 2 are planning weddings of their own. I created a facebook group to keep them all in the loop that way we could all talk about things without having to physically be in the same room and everyone could be included and give their input.
The maid with the least amount on her plate had been giving me a really hard time. I held a get together for them to all meet and she called me an hour before to cancle. We used to talk at least one a week and it seemed like only once in a blue moon I'd hear from her. She didn't want to do anything unless it was girls only, no significant others allowed. The only thing she seemed interested in was looking good the day of and what dress she'd wear. I message the girls end of November asking the girls to go dress shoping in February. No one gave me any trouble or slack. She made a big deal about how only the weekend of the 15th would work for her so I chose Saturday the 16th and decided we'd have every one over in the evening to plan the stag and doe that way they didn't have to drive down twice. She then made a big deal because it was Valentines Day weekend even though she is single and she picked that weekend. She then made a big deal about coming down to get her dress and that she was far to busy to be driving an hour out of her way to do wedding stuff and wanted to purchase her dress on her own. I ofeered to double things up like maybe when she has a fitting we could work on favours to save trips but it wasn't a good enough solution. Her way or no way. She was acting childish and selfish.
Everytime I'd try and comromise she'd twist my words and try to make me out to be a bad guy. Ultimitely I decided that if it was going to be this big of a burden for her that it would be best if she come as a guest instead of a bridesmaid. I explained this to her nicely and told her that she could still help out as much or as little as she wanted but this way it was on her own terms. Being a bridesmaid was obviously taking it's toll on our friendship.
She decided to write a nasty blog about how I treated her on tumblr, unfollow my blog, block and unfollow me on twitter and block me on facebook. I'm not really sure where to go from here. She started following me on twitter again a few days ago but unfollowed me again yesterday. It's been a few weeks and still no contact from her. SHould I being reaching out to her again?
Our wedding in October 2013 and we're finalizing our guest list. Should she be on it? My mom, and maid of honour think that she should still be invited but my matron of honour says no. I'm not opposed to repairing the friendship and I don't hold any negative feelings towards her but I'm not prepaird to make her a bridesmaid again.
Has anyone dealt with this before? What do I do?