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No Shower??

mdr619mdr619 member
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So it's widely known that I do not like traditional showers.  I think the games are cheesy and it's so uncomfortable making silly chitchat with strangers and oohing and aahing as the bride or new mom opens gifts.

That being said...we're getting married in October and no one has said anything to me about throwing me a shower.  I can understand why, given how much I despise them.  But now that it's my turn, I would like to have one!  (Not in the traditional way of course...no games, maybe opens gifts later.)

What should I do?  I don't feel comfortable saying anything to friends...I feel like it would basically just me asking for gifts.  Anyone have any suggestions? 
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Re: No Shower??

  • MrsKathyCMrsKathyC
    1000 Comments First Anniversary
    Could someone be planning one as a suprise?  Plus, showers aren't usually held until shortly before the wedding, you've got plenty of time for someone to offer.

    But, since your family & friends know you don't like them, you probably won't get one, just sayin.  And there is no polite way to ask for one!
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  • j-harveyj-harvey member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_pre-wedding-parties_no-shower?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:32Discussion:4d5556f3-c734-4781-8667-c64ddae1aeb7Post:16c0262a-8482-40fc-ad81-e8a735f584f0">Re:No Shower??</a>:
    [QUOTE]I'm with you on the cheesy games, but opening gifts is the POINT of a shower, so if you don't want to do that, you really shouldn't have one anyway. It's still early, so there's a chance someone may still plan one. You cannot ask for one though. And, honestly, I have to say I'd side eye a bride who spent years complaining about having to "suffer through" celebrating her friends, but now wants everyone to do it for her. Just my opinion though.
    Posted by StageManager14[/QUOTE]

    This on both accounts.  At the one shower I attended where the bride refused to open gifts, a few of us pulled her aside and made her open ours in front of us.  You can't both complain about attending your friends' showers and expect  to have one of your own.  Why would your friends want to put you through a situation you are so uncomfortable with?
    I totally understand wanting to be the center of attention, wanting to celebrate your marriage, and wanting some reciprocity on all those blenders.  Unfortunately, you made it well known that you don't like showers
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  • mia888mia888 member
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    you don't like showers but if you're the bride, you want one/? if you just want the gifts, then skip the shower and just expect the wedding gifts on or after your wedding - that way you don't have to go through the usual 'cheesy games you despise. you can't just tell your friends 'throw me a shower, skip the games, just shower me with gifts'. to think that your friends will pay everything!
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  • EC88EC88 member
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    I think that if you have a bridal shower you should open the gifts during the shower. I would be offended to buy a gift for the bride-to-be for her shower and not be able to watch her open it. There is plenty more time for someone to offer to do a shower but it does sound like they might not offer since they know you don't like them. 
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