So I have been with my FH for almost 4 years , with being engaged since 2/12. We are getting married in 12/12. My FMIL and I aren't super close. I actually think she despises me, but she claims she loves me. I don't know if she is just socially awkward or what, but she has always been very cold to me. She is super controlling, her daughter lives next door to her, and until recently her other son and his girlfriend lived with her. We call ourselves the "bad kids" because we live about 900 miles away from her... Thank God!! Anyways, I had lunch with her back in March, she was shocked how much we had planned already. She is acting like her son and I just met. With only a 10 month engagement we have to be planning fast. So now it's May and she really hasn't said much about the wedding. When I had lunch with her and her family (her daughter, her mother, her three grand kids, her son in law) she sat with her hand in a clenched fist the entire lunch. My parents are contributing more than half of my wedding budget, then I am picking up the rest, which is a lot. My FH isn't really paying for anything, but I think he will be paying for the honeymoon, and I'm okay with that. Anyways, she hasn't offered one dime. She hasn't said anything about hosting the rehearsal dinner, she hasn't even talked about her dress yet. She doesn't ask us what our plans are, she hasn't offered help with anything! I don't know if I should just be thankful, or pissed. I think I'm thankful that I don't have to deal with her controlling attitude, but I'm annoyed that she has not said one word about contributing anything! My FI asked her if she would be contributing and she said I'll see what I can do. Can I ask her about the rehearsal dinner?