Pushy friendneed advice

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• robije7 member

  

  August 2012

  Ugh posted from my phone so apologies if it's not showing paragraphs I swear I made them! :

  

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• schnugglebug

  

  August 2012 edited August 2012

  wow... come straight out and say THANKS but NOT THANKs... it is not that we don't appreciate your gift... we just plain are not interested in having a photo booth, gift or not... It is not part of our vision, if we wanted one we would have accepted when you first offered... so NO we will not take you up on your offer for the photo booth. plain/ flat out/ thank you but NO
  
  well that's what I would say. time to be blunt and straightforward I think. becasue she doesn't seem to be getting the hint...
  
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• AEPerpete member

  

  August 2012

  I would tell her no once more with feeling "Thank you for your kind offer, but we will not be having a photo booth at our wedding, We both decided we do not want one there.", and then after that not even respone to her if she asks you about it again.
  If she still gets you one after that, it's on her, because you already told her you wont be using one. You can instruct any co-ordinators, or planners or the photographer to make sure there will not be one set up.
  Good luck, cause that is annoying.

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• Heath66

  

  August 2012

   Technically it is a gift and people can give you whatever they want to. But you can say something along the lines of "our venue doesn't permit photobooths because they have had issues in the past" Or "we just don't have any room in our venue for a photobooth." I personally wouldn't be mean to her about it because it can come off as unappreciative. 

  
  

   If you haven't had your bridal shower yet maybe you can use the photobooth at your bridal shower, I have never seen one at a shower and I think it would be fun. 

  

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• ericaandtom2012 member

  

  August 2012

  Wow, PUSH-EY!  I think you need to be direct with her and tell her that you are not interested in having a photobooth at your wedding.  If you want to try to spare her feelings, tell her there isn't space or available outlets at your venue (only if it won't be terribly obvious that there's a bunch of extra space) Make sure you tell your venue that under no circumstances is a photobooth to be set up.  I would also have someone be on the lookout for her passing out business cards or something like that at your reception - that would be entirely inappropriate, but wouldn't surprise me based on her current actions.

  
  

  Good luck OP.

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• lehc723 member

  

  August 2012

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_october-2012-weddings_pushy-friendneed-advice?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:56b9bcef-1e34-456e-81f5-cfaa107456b2Discussion:b8b3dbf1-1b81-411f-b0ed-c5b626748293Post:25b231fa-ea0f-40fa-bed9-3ccc3b1594e8">Re: Pushy friendneed advice</a>:
  [QUOTE] Technically it is a gift and people can give you whatever they want to. But you can say something along the lines of "our venue doesn't permit photobooths because they have had issues in the past" Or "we just don't have any room in our venue for a photobooth." I personally wouldn't be mean to her about it because it can come off as unappreciative.   If you haven't had your bridal shower yet maybe you can use the photobooth at your bridal shower, I have never seen one at a shower and I think it would be fun. 
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  Or maybe even at the rehearsal dinner? Friends of mine had their rehearsal at a restaurant that had a photo booth and it turned out nicely.
  
  How annoying to have to deal with someone so pushy! :-/ A friend's in-law is a DJ and for a while when we'd see him (not the friend, the in-law/DJ), he'd be like, "HEY, you know we give friends & family discounts!!!", but with that at least once we were like, "We hired one, sorry!", then he stopped.

  
  

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• achiduck member

  

  August 2012

  Ugh, I hate when people get like that. I would text her back and say "thanks for your offer but FI and I have decided we do not want a photobooth at our wedding." and leave it at that. You don't need to explain your decision.

  
  

  
  

  
  

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• mlperkins12

  

  August 2012

  I understand that it is a gift, but it's also something that is going to change the overall feel of your event and disrupt the plans you have made.  Given that, you certainly have the right to decline. Unfortunately, it seems that you are going to need to be polite, but very strong in your position that you have decided you don't want a photobooth.  Why you don't want one is totally up to you and not really her place to debate with you. 

  

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• robije7 member

  

  August 2012

  Thanks for all the advice. I really don't want to come off as ungrateful it's so tough though. I know it's a gift but when she asked me MONTHS ago If I wanted to rent one I said that we didn't like them and already made the decision not to get one so that wasnt a secret. I think what I'm most worried about is that she wants to turn it ino a business opportunity. I can picture her going around with business cards and hanging out by the booth letting everyone know about the company as you can see she's got that type of personality. Normally I'd just accept it and take it, especially since its a gift, but it's just something we REALLY didn't want. That would be like someone telling me they wanted to buy my centerpieces as a gift some things should really be left up to the bride an groom to decide you know? I'll just take everyone's advice and say thanks again but we just really didn't want one. I'm so not a pushy person that's why I think this is such a tough one for me lol

  

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