Hello everyone!

NadineAndDavid · August 2011

I'm a new military bride-to-be! Any advice on how to include my fiance in planning when he is currently stationed 2,500 miles away?

447 days to go! So excited!

iluvmytxrgr · August 2011

Hi and welcome. If your guy is anything like my guy, they only thing they care about is food, cake, music and what they have to wear. I would narrow down choices of things and then send him an email to see what he likes best. Also, put him in charge of planning your honeymoon. That will give him something important to do and take some off of your shoulders. The honeymoon planning is traditionally the groom's job anyway.

prettyirishgirl · August 2011

Hi!! welcome! i'm new around here too. Mines a little over that away too. The including on my end depended on how involved he wants to be. I had mine do some registry stuff, and asked him about the reception venue (which it is now his personal goal of the whole wedding to get). And I had him really focus on what he wanted to do for the rehearsal dinner. I bug him every once in a while about little things but those are the three he has accepted most willingly. I also let him decide the attire (military or civilian.

The registry was simple because it can be done online. The other 2 were kinda fun for us. He came to visit right before his last deployment and i picked 5 restaurants and we ate at each while he was here and I'll let him pick which he wants to use if any for the rehearsal dinner. I also took him past a bunch of venues and in some and let him pretty much make the full call on that since i really wanted our ceremony place.

firsttimersluck · August 2011

Hi and welcome!
We started our planning while fi was deployed! we send pictures back and forth on ideas... picked colors.. I would send him a buncha links to a particular type of vendor like the venue, then he would narrow it down to three, etc...
It works pretty well if he is in an area that he has internet access

Happy Planning and let us know if you need anything!

NadineAndDavid · August 2011

Thanks so much everyone! Yeah we are able to discuss a lot of things and so far he has been pretty willing to answer all my planning questions for him! Trying not to bombard him though, especially since we still have over a year until the big day!

I planned on asking him if he'd like to do the registry(ies) and just running my ideas by him so he feels included. So far so good! Thank you for all the advice

LetsHikeToday · August 2011

Welcome to the board!

I agree with iluv. My H only cared about good booze, good food, and good music. Send him some pictures through e-mail and I'm sure he'll appreciate it.

Continue to post and keep us updated with your plans! Have you planned any of it yet?

calindi · August 2011

Even living together, my guy wants to keep wedding talk to "as necessary" and a scheduled once a week conversation (literally, he writes it in his calendar: 6pm-7pm wedding talk).

I tend to summarize and provide pictures - if you start describing colors and styles, some guys tend to glaze over (my guy still ignores me when I say "cornflower blue with a muted antique gold" and summarizes with "blue and gold"... and our "antique garden party reminiscent of Great Gaspy" becomes "old stuff and flowers and stuff"... ugh!). I create pages with lots of pictures (yes, an inspiration board!) and use that to point things out to him. And at a glance, he can see that things are coming together well. You'd be surprised where guys can sometimes have opinions when they're seeing things rather than hearing it. When I tell him something, he nods and smiles, but when I show him pictures, he's much more likely to give me real feedback that he likes this or doesn't like that. He's started picking specific flowers that he really likes and ones he doesn't, and that is not something I thought he'd care about!

Like the other girls said, music is really easy to do from a distance, and something a lot of guys care about. Perhaps give him a task - have him pick entrance music? Have him pick the mother/son song if they're having one, or a few 'must play' songs?

SamiJoeB · August 2011

Hi and Welcome!!

I don't really have anything to add, Just wanted to welcome you to the boards!!!!

shan87 · August 2011

I also don't have anything else to add, but Happy Planning and Welcome!

NadineAndDavid · August 2011

So far we know where the ceremony and reception are going to be.

He's already expressed interest in the music and the registry. So those are two things I don't have to worry about hopefully! Luckily we have similar tastes in music so that should go well.

jmpiccione11 · August 2011

I make a list of things to ask my guy and then when we skype it makes wedding talk/wedding planning a lot easier! We also talked about wedding stuff before we were away from each other which helped too... But CONGRATS! And Happy Wedding Planning!

Zimsgirl · August 2011

Welcome. I found my planning bio to be very helpful. He could look at it and tell me if he liked the stuff as well

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