My boyfriend and I are talking about possibly getting married in April in a small ceremony with some close family and friends. We would like to have a big ceremony and reception later, possibly the following year (due to his work schedule) Has anyone done this? Would we do Wedding Showers before the offical, small wedding or would we wait until the big one? Same for gifts? I would feel bad making people feel like they need to give gifts to a wedding they are not invited to (yet) but also seems odd to have them wait a year to give a gift. I could use some thoughts on this. Thanks.