Snarky Brides

Feeling really snarky at FI

I guess it's the stress and the fact that FI lives 6 hours away, but I am trying to not be upset right now. I asked FI his opinion about the scripture that will be read at our ceremony. I had it narrowed down to two, he just had to say which one he liked better. 

But instead he gave me "I will let you chose. I don't care, they both sound nice" line. AUGHHH I guess I brought it on myself, but I thought he might want a say. I get that he is busy with work, but I honestly haven't asked him too many questions. He said all he wants is to get married, and all the planning is up to me. He is supposed to be the person I go through this with, and he literally does not care. I am just stressed and I thought he could help with this. Oh well...
~Emily~

Re: Feeling really snarky at FI

  • That would be aggravating.  I'm sorry he couldn't be bothered to offer up an opinion.  Can you talk to him about how important it is to you that the ceremony and stuff reflect both of you and your relationship and you'd appreciate some input into some of the details to make sure he finds it as meaningful as you expect to?

  • I have tried to tell him that I want his opinion but he always winds up in the "whatever you want" place that drives me crazy.
    ~Emily~
  • When DH tells me to do whatever I want, I tell him "I want you to make this decision for me, because [x,y,z]." Usually that communicates to him that I really do need him to make the decision I've asked him to make. 
  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_feeling-really-snarky-at-fi?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:17Discussion:17b6f2e8-e6f1-4365-b5e6-bcded428563fPost:6b73070f-8b2d-4016-9e6b-8bb1508a8b96">Re: Feeling really snarky at FI</a>:
    [QUOTE]When DH tells me to do whatever I want, I tell him "I want you to make this decision for me, because [x,y,z]." Usually that communicates to him that I really do need him to make the decision I've asked him to make. 
    Posted by MoonlightSilver[/QUOTE]

    That's exactly how FI and I work and plan things out.  <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-smile.gif" border="0" alt="Smile" title="Smile" />
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  • This sounds like a typical guy response to me.
  • Id be happy if my Fi just said that. Ive had nothing but a GROOMZILLA on my hands who thinks he is the damn bride. If its not his idea then its no ones idea unless the price tag is to expensive then he goes super cheap.
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