FSIL (Matron of honor) is throwing my lingerie shower. And through conversation, she has said that it will be a saucy ladies party. Not only is it something that I'm not that crazy about, but my fiance said absolutely not! We are very active in our church, and just not very comfortable with receiving these types of gifts. Don't get me wrong, I'm totally cool with getting gag gifts and other 'risky' items, I just don't want the whole shower centered around sex toys. My PERSONAL opinion is that it would hinder my physical relationship with my future husband because I would rely on a toy and not him. I don't think God created it to be that way. For all who use them, that is totally cool and your deal. It is none of my business, so please don't take this post and make it into something I'm not meaning it to be.
I'm having a hard time because I'm not really sure how to handle it. I've already told FSIL that fiance said no to a saucy ladies party and her response was, "I will talk to him." And when I told fiance this, he said that I needed to just handle it because it was my party. I don't want her to think that I want a rated G lingerie shower, but I also don't feel comfortable about having one that is so risqué that some BMs and very important ladies are left out. Basically the bottom line is that a saucy ladies party is out for us and I don't know how to tell her without her getting mad and taking it the wrong way. I've told her that I'm down for pretty much anything as long as there is no strippers, but then this came up.
Any help at all?