Is this ok??

Re: Is this ok??

• wittyschaffy member

  

  July 2011 edited December 2011

  I don't know anyone in that situation but am I correct in assuming you're upset about this?  It is hard to tell in the context of a short snippet online!  Personally, I think it is a perfectly fine way to include his own children in their celebration. 

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• musicalsunlight member

  

  July 2011 edited December 2011

  That is perfectly fine. If you do not feel comfortable about it, you can certainly bring it up with him, but they are his children too and there is nothing wrong with them being involved in their father's wedding.

  

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• 2chumps member

  

  July 2011 edited December 2011

  I agree that there is nothing wrong with it.  I think it's great they are being included!  Both kids are old enough, hopefully they would say if they weren't comfortable having such an important role in the wedding.  Have you asked them how they feel?  
  
  It's hard to tell if you're asking because of their age or because you feel it's not suitable with their soon to be stepmom.  But I always think it's a good sign when the step parent wants to include their step children rather than exclude them.  It shows they care and that's what is most important.  Much better than a drama mamma and having to worrying if she's treating your kids well.  
  

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• kidlets2

  

  July 2011 edited December 2011

  I'm asking because of their age. My daughter asked me what a MOH does and I had a hard time explaining it to her because she's not old enough to fulfill the actual role. I realize it's more of a title thing at this age.
   
  I feel very blessed that their stepmom is including them and for the most part is a very good person. I just feel that they may be going a tad bit overboard in their quest to include the kids.
  
  I won't say anything to my ex about it. It's their day and he can have the kids participate in any way they chose. I was just wondering if anyone else had heard of kids given such big titles in a wedding.

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• tpender13 member

  

  July 2011 edited December 2011

  I don't think it's weird. My sister got married when I was about 10 or 11. I was her MOH and her stepson (about 5 or so at the time) was the best man. We both just wore what we were told and showed up. Just because your daughter can't buy a bunch of penis straws for the bachelorette party and your son can't take his dad to a strip club doesn't mean they can't be MOH and best man.
  
  ETA: They obviously had someone else sign the marriage license, but whatevs...

  

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• SSaltzman87 member

  

  July 2011 edited December 2011

  When my cousin was 9, he was the BM in my uncle's 2nd wedding. It's definitely not unusual. As long as your kids are okay with it, I don't see much of a problem.

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• Steph0871

  

  July 2011 edited December 2011

  Eh. I'll be the dissenting voice. I think it's kind of weird.  I would never say anything to a couple about it, but it feels very AWish to me. (AW of the parents like- look at us! We chose his kids!)  Does the step mom REALLY consider these two kids to be her best friends in the world?

  
  

  There's nothing wrong with making them a (jr) bridesmaid or gm.  I'm hoping/assuming they're having other attendents that will actually be helping with more of the traditionally expect 'duties' of the wedding?  My mom was remarried when I was 19 and I still wasn't her MOH.  She has friends for that. My sister and I were bridesmaids.

  
  

  If they want to do it, fine. But I guess all I'm saying is- I think you're well within 'normal' to give it a second thought. It's definitely strange. 

  
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