i have very mixed feelings about one of my briadsmaids not coming to the rehearsal dinner at a restuarant that my mom has choosen, but she is coming to the rehearsal at the church. she is a happily married girl, but will not come to the rehearsal dinner because one of her ex boyfriends work at this restuarant, whom we don't even know if he will be working that night. plus i'm sure he wouldn't even approach us or bother us because there will be to many people around with us. i told her i was fine with it (which i am in a way) but i find it to be a very childish reason. i have received a lot of flab about it and plan on letting her know. just wanted to see what people here thought about it.