My brother's aren't in the weddng party but I still want them involved

Re: My brother's aren't in the weddng party but I still want them involved

• Jen4948 member

  

  January 2013

  They can do readings.

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• Jager1219 member

  

  January 2013

  You can have them do all three - be an usher, escort your mom, and do a reading.

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• mlg78 member

  

  January 2013

  ...or escort a grandmother too!  

  
  

  Or, they could always stand up on your side.  It doesn't have to be all girls, you know. (and before I hear it...no, the sides don't have to be even).

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• maddynamite member

  

  January 2013

  I am getting my brother a bout, and he is escorting my mother to her seat

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• MoniqueAbrahamsen member

  

  January 2013 edited January 2013

  I had the same concern with my two younger brothers. One is 18 and the other 15. I want them involved, to feel like they have a special place. I decided to have the older one walk me down the aisle and the younger one will escort his mom. (Our dad is not really around)

  

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• Blue_Bird member

  

  January 2013 edited January 2013

  I guess my first question is, why aren't they in the wedding party? If you want them involved, give them the honor. Everything else is kind of pointless.

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• mlg78 member

  

  January 2013

  I think being an usher is an honor depending on who they are seating. For our wedding my fiance's youngest cousin is walking grandma down the aisle. I think it's significant enough and grandma views it as an honor and that's her favorite grandson.

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• LDubHawksFan member

  

  January 2013

  We both wanted our brothers involved in our wedding, but wanted our friends in our WP, so we involved them a couple of ways.  My brothers were ushers (which I personally don't think is a crap job, but others do), although they seemed to not fully understand the task at hand!  Hubby's brothers were a part of our wine box ceremony, nailing the box shut....it was rather comical.   Both sets of brothers walked their respective mothers down the aisle and I think that was the best role.  We were going to have my brothers escort my two grandmothers down too, but it was a very long aisle and during rehearsal we realized it would be better for them to make the trip just once.

  
  

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• Rachbobach member

  

  January 2013

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_my-brothers-arent-in-the-weddng-party-but-i-still-want-them-involved?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:37Discussion:32666783-8dca-4266-a3fd-e3f3e8dceaa4Post:a9d52882-6435-4fcb-bdcd-c7e70a964e83">Re: My brother's aren't in the weddng party but I still want them involved</a>:
  [QUOTE]I had the same concern with my two younger brothers. One is 18 and the other 15. I want them involved, to feel like they have a special place. I decided to have the older one walk me down the aisle and the younger one will escort his mom. (Our dad is not really around)
  Posted by MoniqueAbrahamsen[/QUOTE]
  
  I should have gave more information but I am kinda in the same situation as her. My dad will not be at the wedding so I was originally throwing around the idea of having both of my older brothers walk me down. I'm very close with them, but I'm also Jewish and in the Jewish religion your parents are supposed to walk you down and I really don't want to take away that honor from my Mom. Also my Fiance who is not Jewish will be honoring that tradition and both of his parents will walk him down the aisle. So that leaves my brothers...They are not in the actual wedding party because even though they are close with my Fiance, he has a bunch of very close friends and I don't want to tell him who to have in his party.
  
  I am having them stand up under the chuppah with my Mom and my Fiance's parents (if they want to) which is special but I just wanted to see if there was anything else they can do.

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