Yes, FI and I have intended to get married and planning the wedding for a few months, but he wanted to wait for a ring on my hand and surprise proposal before we considered ourselves engaged. So, our day finally came!!! You can see the story here if you like:
http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_just-engaged-proposals_surprise-b-day-proposalMy vent is from all the reactions one gets from a second engagement, some of which were expected and some were just harsh. My mom and his parents are excited and a few friends have been genuinely happy, but other reactions have been unenthusiastic (fine, I expected this and downplay the propsal to just a basic announcement), but my dad is verging on furious. He hasn't met him and it been quick. So he's demanding to know why he's can't google anything about FI (he has no online presence so it seems to be causing some distrust) and why we can't wait till we're divorced (we didn't want to even wait this long.) This morning a coworker (friend?) offers no congrats just "You getting married next week on vacation? Oh right, you have to get divorced first." Aside from talk of exes, even my grandma was just "oh, that's nice, I hope you make each other happy." Some of this I realize we'll have to work through, like with dad, but I just really wish I didn't have to deal with other's issues around our relationship and just do what works for us.
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