Shower gifts

kimm260 · August 2012

I have my shower in a couple of weeks and I know some of you have already had your shower or will have your shower soon and I was wondering when you plan on using the gifts that you recieve. I know that it is etiquette to wait until after the wedding but FI wants to use some of it right away and so do I, especially if we get the ice cream mixer and kitchen aide. When will you use your shower gifts?

emswanson613 · August 2012

I'm going with tradition on this one. As much as I really really want to use the things people get me, I feel like it's not only bad etiquette, but I think of it as bad luck. It's along the lines of whenever you don't expect something to go wrong, something inevitably will. I'm playing it safe.

LDubHawksFan · August 2012

I think it's just polite to wait unless the person has told you it's ok. Plus we are mostly registering for upgrades to things like towels, so I can wait! haha

achiduck · August 2012

Seeing as how my shower is 3 weeks before the wedding and we live in a condo with limited storage space and have mostly registered for upgrades we will begin using it all immediately.

This is one of the few things I'm prepared to breach etiquette for.

lepoissonrouge · August 2012

You girls are killing me. I would love to wait, really, I would. And now something will go worng because I said this... But I have four spoons at this apartment and if somebody buys me my silverware I will most definitely be using it. And knives, those too, because the knives from my grandma that she got 60 some odd years ago at HER wedding just are not cutting it.... literally.

LDubHawksFan · August 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_october-2012-weddings_shower-gifts-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:56b9bcef-1e34-456e-81f5-cfaa107456b2Discussion:a93efdf2-bf61-4ce2-ad61-b9d976dd82bePost:cde765ed-7d87-467f-a769-674915e2f332">Re: Shower gifts</a>:
[QUOTE]You girls are killing me. I would love to wait, really, I would. And now something will go worng because I said this... But I have four spoons at this apartment and if somebody buys me my silverware I will most definitely be using it. And knives, those too, because the knives from my grandma that she got 60 some odd years ago at HER wedding just are not cutting it.... literally.
Posted by lepoissonrouge[/QUOTE]

haha, I think you can make an exception!

brainybrunette · August 2012

I'm in the same situation as achiduck. There's just no room for all the boxes. Out with the old college stuff and in with the upgrades almost immediately.

xxjen015 · August 2012

I'm not using anything until after the wedding. My shower isn't until September 2nd, but still. I won't use most of the kitchen stuff until next year, anyways. Currently FI and I are sharing an apartment with one of our GM and will until next August unless something else comes up. We are both currently struggling to find jobs in our degree fields and so it makes sense for us to share the bills with someone else while we can. Our roommate is a bit of a kitchen appliance nut and has just about anything we could want to use, so we don't need to open all of our new stuff. Plus, I don't trust him to clean up our nice, new stuff. He has a tendency to leave dishes in his car for months at a time, and I would be PISSED if he screwed up our new stuff.

music11 · August 2012

We are going to wait until after the wedding. We did use a few of our engagement gifts, but we have been engaged for a little over two years, so it just seemed silly to let things sit for so long. But I think it would be better just to wait until after the wedding for shower & wedding gifts.

TheSlowskys · August 2012

I'm using a lot of things right away since we are having a yard sale. We have some other household stuff to get rid of to make it worth it to have the yard sale and we might as well put all the old utensils, dinnerware, glassware, and pots and pans out there. Hopefully we can make a couple hundred for the honeymoon spending money.

BrittneyRN · August 2012

I'm waiting until after the wedding. It's just one of those etiquette rules I don't want to break.

snuff9861 · August 2012

I would love to use everything right away! But sadly, I too will wait til after the wedding. I will open everything to make sure it's not damaged and then I am packing it in boxes for the move. That way it's out of sight and out of mind.

swimlib · August 2012

We don't have much storage space as it is so keeping a pile of boxes until after the wedding isn't going to fly. We will probably wait until after the wedding to use most of it, but it will be unpacked and put away.

ReyesToy · August 2012

FI wanted to start using some stuff because like other PP, we don't have space for boxes especially right now with DIY wedding stuff already taking over my guest room.

There are some things that I want to wait to use until we're married like new sheets or photo frames.

RockstarWifey0912 · August 2012

Most of our stuff is upgrades, so it'll probably be used. Our shower is 6 weeks before the wedding though, so really, what's the harm?

kd1986 · August 2012

I've actually never heard of a tradition wherein you don't use the gifts until after the wedding. Could be a location type thing. In MI everyone I know uses those gifts right away, as I've already been doing as well!

KittennDave · August 2012

I don't think we'll be using ours until after the wedding, I think we'll be bummed after we come back from our honeymoon in California and have to come back to real life, so I'll be saving them until then to extend the fun! :-)

amandaorgan · August 2012

We will be waiting until after the wedding. Not so much because of etiquitte per say, but more specifically is that we relocated back to our home town from our college town and we are waiting for our house to sell in the college town, we are both living with our parents. So, we will wait to open and unpack all of our new stuff until we are settled in our new place. Iif it is before the wedding, then we will use it before, but that is not looking likely

ktelizabeth86 · August 2012

I didn't know that was considered against etiquette, and I'm not sure I even understand why. We'll use our stuff right away.

schnugglebug · August 2012

My shower isn't till Sept 15th... and that is more a bacherlorette party/ birthday party/ shower... as FI's family don't do showers... they bring gifts or cards to the actual wedding...

we are not sure what we will do... will have to wait and see lol

goatlady12 · August 2012

I didn't even realize why you aren't supposed to use them until TK. I already had used my engagement party gifts by that time. So I don't see why treat shower presents differently. Plus I follow my own rules of etiquette. If I'm not offended when someone else does it, than it's ok for me to do it.

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