Allright. So, when I got engaged, I asked my only sister to be my MOH. I had been worried about asking her, thinking she would say no (we are only 2yrs apart, but have never been very close). I was really hoping this would bring us closer, but its doing the opposite.
She is acting like a completely selfish crazy person. She is causing me so much stress and extra work that I really do not want her as a MOH and dont even really want her in the bridal party.
We went wedding dress shopping and I invited my BM, and made it clear they didnt have to come if it was too much hassle. My sister made a fiasco of coming, and I even drove so we were much much closer to where she was than where I live because she complained so much. She then showed up completely hung over, and spent most of the morning complaining that we "made" her get up early. She then basically ignored me during dress trying on, until one of my other BM took her aside and told her to at least act like she was paying attention. When we were on our way to lunch she goes "You better be buying me lunch after making me sit through that". Um, excuse me???
A few months after that we went looking for bridesmaids dresses. I wanted just cute, simple black cocktail dresses that they can wear again, so once again invited all the BM if they were interested. My sister REFUSED to come out the night before saying she had a party she wanted to go to, but then also refused to take the earlier train so she didnt show up until 1-ish (not a big deal), but the she calls me and says "You have to come pick me up now". No hello, or hows the shopping. Just demanded I go get her. We were in a dressing room at the time, so I told her the store and asked her to take a cab and just come to the store (it was only 1.5miles from the station).
Apparently she didnt like that because she said "F-U" and hung up on me. We then called her a cab, and told her it was waiting, and she refused to go out. When she finally went out the cab had left, and she called again screaming at me. My BM finally called another cab (because apparently my sister is to good to call her own) and offered to pay for it to end the drama. My sister showed up when we were at lunch, got lunch (which my mom paid for) and then demanded we drive her back home because the next train wasn't until 8. We were going to go to some stores near her place, but couldn't find parking and she then decided she was too tried to park at the plaza and walk to the stores. So she just went home, never tried on a dress. Oh, and did I mention she demanded I refund her train ticket (only $5) with the money our parents donated to my wedding fund? If she asked, no probs. But she demanded. Not even a please.
Now, I am at the point where I am sick of trying to be the nice older sister trying to bring us closer. She has become a huge burden and stressor for me and I actually tried to convince my Fiance to let me cancel the wedding and elope. (Thankfully now, over a week later, I've decided I still want to share our wedding with those I love).
So the question is, what do I do??? Can I kick her out?? I cannot deal with her BS anymore. She is an adult, she could at least act like on... Advice please!!!!!
B