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Re: BM shoes

• triciaholden1987

  

  March 2013

  No, you are not being unreasonable.  May I suggest that you let them know the color?  It takes a lot of pressure off of them to choose the right one.

  
  

  If you asked them to all wear the same shoe, you would need to purchase for them.  For example, I told my bridesmaids nude shoes, they can be pumps, flats, sandles, whatever.  

  

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• SummerGrl15

  

  March 2013 edited March 2013

  I do have a few BM who may very well wear say leopard or zebra print (which I love - just not for a wedding) or something funky like that if a specific color was not decided on. Otherwise I wouldn't really care if they all wore the same color or not.
  
  I thought it would make it easier on them if I let them pick the color out.  But maybe I'll ask the girls what color shoes they all already have and take it from there. 
  
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  [QUOTE]I didn't even pick a color for mine. They wore long dresses and I trusted them not to wear anything crazy. It worked fine. If you do want a specific color though I would pick it. Sometimes having a group of women decide amongst themsevles is complicated if say half want silver and half want black.
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• [Deleted User]

  

  March 2013

  I think that's fine as long as you don't pick something crazy like a specific shade of magenta. If you can decide on something that is easy to find in a multitude of prices/styles and might even be in their closets, it shouldn't be any problem. I told my girls that silver, nude, or white would be fine. They're in short dresses so I didn't really want one person in dark shoes standing out, but I figured if I gave them that sort of range they could either buy if they want or wear something in their closet.

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• SummerGrl15

  

  March 2013

  Oh no, I definitely would not pick a crazy color.  Black, silver, white... something neutral. As I said, I really don't want them to have to spend (or feel as though they have to spend) any more money then what they already spent on the dress. 

   

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• itzMS member

  

  March 2013

  Perfect. Since the dresses are long, it really doesn't even matter if some wear silver and some wear black. Not to mention, there are many different "shades" of silver...so they all look different anyways. Just tell them, "I think any black or silver shoe of your choosing would be great!"
  
  

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• steign member

  

  March 2013

  I agree with PP on it being fine, as long as its not a strange or unusual color. I had to buy my own "gold" shoes when I was a BM in a wedding and had to go out and spend $40 on shoes that I won't wear again.

  
  
  

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• SummerGrl15

  

  March 2013

  Great. Thank you for the input. I'm going to give them the option of a black or silver shoe of their choosing.

   

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• hollyk224

  

  March 2013

  That sounds fine to me - I did the same thing with my bridesmaids.  I let them choose the shoe, but I gave them a color swatch from the dress so it would help them find a shoe to match.  Everything turned out perfectly!

  

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• beardo1111

  

  March 2013

  My girls are in short dresses and I asked them to all wear silver shoes - whatever kind they wanted.  All but one already had silver heels and the other girls said she should probably get a pair to have in her wardrobe anyways.  As far as I know no one minded.....
  
  I just bought a pair of nude pumps to wear in my sister's wedding....she picked our dresses and asked that we all wear nude pumps.  I actually picked a pair that I think will go well with the dress I'm wearing for our rehersal dinner and will probably wear again after that.  I didn't mind at all.

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• [Deleted User] member

  

  March 2013

  I did the same w/my bridesmaids, they had long brown dresses so I told them black would be fine & they were all like, no want to go brown so I said ok. Then they all had trouble findng brown shoes they likes so we just settled on metallic colored shoes. They were all happy & all georgous & they all had shoes they could walk in & wear again. It worked out great.
  
  Just wish I would have followed same advice for myself instead of getting "Bridal shoes" that I paid to much for & will never wear again.

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• nycrose2013 member

  

  March 2013

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_bm-shoes-3?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:37Discussion:128e4bbf-30f6-47b3-8996-9455a3bbddfePost:905c8f31-f22c-4827-aac0-0a1202f9f204">Re: BM shoes</a>:
  [QUOTE]I agree with PP on it being fine, as long as its not a strange or unusual color. I had to buy my own "gold" shoes when I was a BM in a wedding and had to go out and spend $40 on shoes that I won't wear again.
  Posted by steign[/QUOTE]
  
  Since when is gold a weird color for a shoe? I feel like tons of girls have metallic gold "going out shoes" in their closets. it's just as likely to be in there as silver is.

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• lovesclimbing member

  

  March 2013

  I just wanted to say, I don't think "silver" or "gold" is a normal color to have in one's closet and that you (general "you") should pay if you ask for those (especially gold).  I did not own a pair of silver shoes until I bought myself a pair for my wedding three months ago.  I don't own a pair of gold heels either and likely, never will because I honestly can't think of anything I own or anything I would buy in the future that would go with it.

  
  

  My BMs wore a black shoe of their choosing.  I know for a fact (all three were my sisters) that if I had said "any silver shoe", Every. Single. One. Of. Them. would have had to go out and buy a new pair of shoes.  Same with gold. 

  
  

  I think that "white", "black", and possibly "navy" and "nude" are the only colors everyone has (and FWIW, I don't own a pair in "nude" although I'd like to get a pair)

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• Sephiroth member

  

  March 2013

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_bm-shoes-3?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:128e4bbf-30f6-47b3-8996-9455a3bbddfePost:386d2e81-368b-4d14-b5f2-0c098710de65">Re: BM shoes</a>:
  [QUOTE]In Response to Re: BM shoes : Since when is gold a weird color for a shoe? I feel like tons of girls have metallic gold "going out shoes" in their closets. it's just as likely to be in there as silver is.
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  It just depends on the people. I don't own any silver OR gold 'going out shoes' and never would, left to my own devices. I can't stand the way they look.
  
  I know someone getting married soon who wants her bridesmaids to wear 'gold shoes' and not a single one of them owns any, nor wants to own any. So the effect is no different than if she'd asked them to wear a specific shoe.

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