Are you having a bridal shower? If so, what are you telling your guests? Everyone is hounding me for a registry, but FI and I have what we need and decided not to have one. Should I create one just for the shower?
I'd make a small registry because a shower is meant to be a time where guest "shower" the bride (or couple) with gifts and you may end up with a bunch of random stuff you really don't want since not everyone will want to give you $.
If I were you, I'd register at one place, for about 20-30 items that maybe you'd never buy yourself, but you'd like to have or even some items you have that need to be upgraded (i.e. new toaster etc.)
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Ditto PP. I would definitely make at least a small registry especially if you're having a shower thrown for you. It will give your guests more options than just cash as far as what they can get you. And, if they're going to get you an actual gift (not cash or a gift card), it might as well be something you like, right?
We dont have a registry and I dont have a shower either. We are living together since over 2 years, so dont really need anything. Sure, we could update little things in the kitchen, but dont really want to, since it's still working. So we've been just telling our family, if they decide to gift us, then monetary gifts would be best... especially, since we're paying for our own wedding too... none of our parents are contributing for anything, so if they want to, they can gift us with money... and they've been also spreading word about it to our relatives, since i know, some of them asked if we have a registry. The money gift works out for us, since we want to save up and buy a house as our next project after the wedding
We are not registered and we are being thrown a shower. I have been hounded as well for a registry. We also didn't register because we have everything we need. Our families have been telling people to get us gift cards to home improvement stores.
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_may-2012-weddings_for-the-ladies-who-do-not-have-a-registry?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:f0ca0bc1-9255-4120-8042-b40e7f3e99c5Discussion:22605ac1-fdcc-4940-84a0-a60f3cbddc54Post:29532af9-7595-440a-9089-b3eee3ae44f0">Re: For the ladies who do NOT have a registry</a>: [QUOTE]I'd make a small registry because a shower is meant to be a time where guest "shower" the bride (or couple) with gifts and you may end up with a bunch of random stuff you really don't want since not everyone will want to give you $. If I were you, I'd register at one place, for about 20-30 items that maybe you'd never buy yourself, but you'd like to have or even some items you have that need to be upgraded (i.e. new toaster etc.) Posted by cpm1223[/QUOTE]<div> </div><div>I agree with this.
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_may-2012-weddings_for-the-ladies-who-do-not-have-a-registry?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:f0ca0bc1-9255-4120-8042-b40e7f3e99c5Discussion:22605ac1-fdcc-4940-84a0-a60f3cbddc54Post:cba86a1c-7b4c-48e1-99ac-94b0b05f9134">Re: For the ladies who do NOT have a registry</a>: [QUOTE]What about registering for your honeymoon? Posted by lindsayadams80[/QUOTE]
OP, please don't do this.
lindsayadams80: honeymoon registries are SUPER tacky and not well liked by almost everyone on TK (from what I've seen over the past year and a half.) Its really rude to ask people for cash to pay for your honeymoon, and most of the "honeyfund" websites actually rip your guests off because they take a percentage of the $ that was gifted.
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In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_may-2012-weddings_for-the-ladies-who-do-not-have-a-registry?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:f0ca0bc1-9255-4120-8042-b40e7f3e99c5Discussion:22605ac1-fdcc-4940-84a0-a60f3cbddc54Post:a9edceb7-bb8b-4162-ba7e-e421614e3093">Re: For the ladies who do NOT have a registry</a>: [QUOTE]We are not registered and we are being thrown a shower. I have been hounded as well for a registry. We also didn't register because we have everything we need. Our families have been telling people to get us gift cards to home improvement stores. Posted by dland0201[/QUOTE]
I'd say the same thing to you as I did to the OP, if you don't register, you will end up with 5 blenders, 3 toasters, and lots of random crap you don't want. You should really consider a small registry so that your guests will have something to buy you since not everyone likes to give cash.
I've also been under the impression (and maybe its from spending some time on the etiquette board) that if you aren't registered for gifts, then you really should decline a shower since the whole purpose of a shower is to "shower" the couple with actual physical gifts....
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In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_may-2012-weddings_for-the-ladies-who-do-not-have-a-registry?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:f0ca0bc1-9255-4120-8042-b40e7f3e99c5Discussion:22605ac1-fdcc-4940-84a0-a60f3cbddc54Post:32c27313-6486-42a5-9ceb-937ad7dfdb39">Re: For the ladies who do NOT have a registry</a>: [QUOTE]In Response to Re: For the ladies who do NOT have a registry : OP, please don't do this. lindsayadams80: honeymoon registries are SUPER tacky and not well liked by almost everyone on TK (from what I've seen over the past year and a half.) Its really rude to ask people for cash to pay for your honeymoon, and most of the "honeyfund" websites actually rip your guests off because they take a percentage of the $ that was gifted. Posted by cpm1223[/QUOTE]
<div>Yikes, sorry, didn't know. I'm not doing this, I just know some people who have and hadn't heard anything bad about them. But good to know</div>
We did not register and my BMs planned a group gift - we got a wine rack and a bottle of wine from everyone! It worked out well for us because we bought a house last year and have everything we need.
I would still create a small registry, some people prefer to give a gift and it's better for them to give you something you actually want instead of something you will never use.
In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_may-2012-weddings_for-the-ladies-who-do-not-have-a-registry?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:f0ca0bc1-9255-4120-8042-b40e7f3e99c5Discussion:22605ac1-fdcc-4940-84a0-a60f3cbddc54Post:9de33241-343d-4a3f-a50b-983f2ec919d0">Re: For the ladies who do NOT have a registry</a>: [QUOTE]I would still create a small registry, some people prefer to give a gift and it's better for them to give you something you actually want instead of something you will never use. Posted by mandi921vh[/QUOTE]
<div>This!! You will probably get a ton of stuff you don't want, and not everyone is considerate and includes gift receipts, and unless it's a product that BB&B carries, you might not be able to return it.</div>
You can always do a "shower us with your love and presence" before the Big day instead of "shower us with presents" LOL ANd just say, no gifts needed, just your love and support... come have a good time.. etc...
Re: For the ladies who do NOT have a registry
If I were you, I'd register at one place, for about 20-30 items that maybe you'd never buy yourself, but you'd like to have or even some items you have that need to be upgraded (i.e. new toaster etc.)
Missing Our July Sparkler
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[QUOTE]I'd make a small registry because a shower is meant to be a time where guest "shower" the bride (or couple) with gifts and you may end up with a bunch of random stuff you really don't want since not everyone will want to give you $. If I were you, I'd register at one place, for about 20-30 items that maybe you'd never buy yourself, but you'd like to have or even some items you have that need to be upgraded (i.e. new toaster etc.)
Posted by cpm1223[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>I agree with this.
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[QUOTE]What about registering for your honeymoon?
Posted by lindsayadams80[/QUOTE]
OP, please don't do this.
lindsayadams80: honeymoon registries are SUPER tacky and not well liked by almost everyone on TK (from what I've seen over the past year and a half.) Its really rude to ask people for cash to pay for your honeymoon, and most of the "honeyfund" websites actually rip your guests off because they take a percentage of the $ that was gifted.
Missing Our July Sparkler
BFP-11/12/12, MMC 1/16/13-baby stopped growing @ 9wks, found out at 13wks, D&E 1/25/13
[QUOTE]We are not registered and we are being thrown a shower. I have been hounded as well for a registry. We also didn't register because we have everything we need. Our families have been telling people to get us gift cards to home improvement stores.
Posted by dland0201[/QUOTE]
I'd say the same thing to you as I did to the OP, if you don't register, you will end up with 5 blenders, 3 toasters, and lots of random crap you don't want. You should really consider a small registry so that your guests will have something to buy you since not everyone likes to give cash.
I've also been under the impression (and maybe its from spending some time on the etiquette board) that if you aren't registered for gifts, then you really should decline a shower since the whole purpose of a shower is to "shower" the couple with actual physical gifts....
Missing Our July Sparkler
BFP-11/12/12, MMC 1/16/13-baby stopped growing @ 9wks, found out at 13wks, D&E 1/25/13
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: For the ladies who do NOT have a registry : OP, please don't do this. lindsayadams80: honeymoon registries are SUPER tacky and not well liked by almost everyone on TK (from what I've seen over the past year and a half.) Its really rude to ask people for cash to pay for your honeymoon, and most of the "honeyfund" websites actually rip your guests off because they take a percentage of the $ that was gifted.
Posted by cpm1223[/QUOTE]
<div>Yikes, sorry, didn't know. I'm not doing this, I just know some people who have and hadn't heard anything bad about them. But good to know</div>
[QUOTE]I would still create a small registry, some people prefer to give a gift and it's better for them to give you something you actually want instead of something you will never use.
Posted by mandi921vh[/QUOTE]
<div>This!! You will probably get a ton of stuff you don't want, and not everyone is considerate and includes gift receipts, and unless it's a product that BB&B carries, you might not be able to return it.</div>
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ANd just say, no gifts needed, just your love and support... come have a good time.. etc...