My mini freak out.

Epiphany1031 · April 2012

Please tell me I'm normal!! I honestly don't know WHY I'm freaking out, but I am!! I am so in love with my FH, so excited to marry him and start our life together, and so excited for our honeymoon! I think it's just the reception that makes me nervous? I just want everyone to have a good time and I feel nervous about making sure I talk to everyone, etc.. I am super shy and it's most of FH's family that I haven't met.. maybe that's why I'm so nervous. My palms literally get clammy and I feel butterflies/knots in my stomach just thinking about it. I wish we would have just eloped!! On top of that I just feel like there is so much left to do and not enough time. I'm horrible at planning, I don't want people to come to the wedding, watch the ceremony, and then think, "umm this is it?" at the reception. Am I crazy? I need to relax but then I look at my knot countown thing and there are only 15 days left! aaaaah! TOTALLY wish we had it in our budget for a wedding planner.
Meanwhile my FH doesn't have a nervous bone in his body (or he hides it very well). lol...

feliswilderi · April 2012

You will be fine! Don't make yourself promises you can't keep. I have been to enough weddings and one previous one of my own. To know that next to no brides get to talk to all of the guests. Yes, you should try, just don't beat yourself up if it doesn't happen. Your family and his will just be happy to see you guys really happy! Also I am great at planning and I still wish I had money for a wedding planner. So you are completely normal! It's going to be great, try to relax and enjoy it because the warp speed part of the wedding is about to start and it won't stop until after the wedding!!!!

blgrout · April 2012

I think its normal to freak out a little epiphany. I have those moments too, as far as being nervous/worried that my reception will be blah. You just need to step back for a minute and realize all the work you've put into it won't go unnoticed by your guests. We're all doing the best we can, and I think (ok, hope) that the people who attend our weddings will know that. If you're married at the end of the day thats all that will really matter.

Its so much easier to say that than to actually do it, but it's true. You'll be fine. If you step back and relax and do something fun thats totally NWR to blow off steam it can help. Thats what I did last night and it calmed me down a lot and helped me realize that my wedding might not be perfect, but it should still be fun and a night to remember.

*hugs* 15 days! Oh, and I second Erica's advice about turing off 4 weddings. Who really hires belly dancers anyways?

hedgehogmadhatter · April 2012

I don't really have any good advice.. I'm just thrilled to see I am not the only person who is LOSING HER EVER LOVING MIND! Just breath and smile! That's my plan anyway.

Everyone has different expectations for your wedding. Many people watch those shows, Four Weddings, Say YES to the dress, My Fair Wedding and they set up these insane expectations for what is really a sacred ceramony and celebration of your union and family. Don't get me wrong, I love My Fair Wedding, but I know I can't live up to that and if my guests are expecting that kind of hoopla then they are in for a surprise...course they all know me so maybe it won't be a surprise! haha!

Watch that other show...My BIg Fat Gypsy wedding... you'll feel better! Nothing about your wedding will bother you.

jtrenee972 · April 2012

I looove your reply. It's so true about what happens when we watch those shows. I was a my fair wedding freak and after a while my expectations for my own wedding grew terribly out of hand. I had to make myself stop watching it and just really have faith that what I'm planning is going to be wonderful even if it's on a shoestring budget. My wedding is next Saturday 41412 and I'm finally satisfied with everything I planned. Although I'm not gonna have bunches of beautiful flowers everywhere and 25 of my guest will have to stand because of a seating limit missight in the ceremony room.. I'm gonna suck it all up and promise myself I'm going to enjoy the moment.

cdbishop · April 2012

I agree, don't worry too much. It is your wedding and everyone is there to celebrate with you and FI. The tv shows have all over the top non-normal weddings in my opinion. Make your lists of things to finish, picture walking down the aisle to your FI and your first dance to think of the good things and becoming a part of the family, even if it is only the first time you are meeting some of them.

NalaniAli · April 2012

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[QUOTE]Oh, and I second Erica's advice about turing off 4 weddings. <strong> Who really hires belly dancers anyways?
</strong>Posted by blgrout[/QUOTE]

Those of us that are actually bellydancers, that's who. And we aren't actually hired, we just kind of show up! I actually have bellydancers from 6 states showing up at my wedding - all girls I've danced with in various stages of my life. Dancing is very important to me and a huge part of my identity. I'm very fortunate that FI knows this about me and accepts that I get sidetracked by shiny sparkly things! lol

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