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aaronNmandy2012
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Elope and then party?
Hi!
My FI and I are "eloping" on a cruise this December which we will also use as our honeymoon. I use "these" because even though we will be getting married alone (or with maybe one set of friends in attendance) everyone knows we are getting married and we are telling people. We would like to have a home reception summer 2013 to celebrate our marriage.
We are having our wedding intimate for several personal reasons and mainly because it is what we want. We don't want the drama and hassle of a traditional wedding, plus we live in MO and my family and the majority of our friends live in several states across the NE and MI.
I know many people have issues with a late reception and I'll most likely take some shell fire for even mentioning it, but for a duel second wedding we think it is perfect for us and our situation.
Has anyone else done this before and have any advice or ideas they could throw our way? I was thinking of sending out announcements/STD's in November. Something along the lines of...
We are having our wedding alone, but would like to celebrate our marriage with all of you at this date at our home.
Not exactly the wording but this idea. Once again...any ideas or suggestions?
Happily in love since 12-01-10
Happily married since 12-01-12
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Re: Elope and then party?
Here's my thoughts for you in this situation - first talk it over with your closest family members and friends and see what advice they have for you. They will be major players in the second event, so their input is important.
Also, you would want to call your event next year a "party" or "celebration" of your marriage - but it couldn't be called a wedding, wedding reception or second wedding since you'll already be married legally. Party to me is a great word anyway, who doesn't love a party
For the announcement, definitely don't send anything out before your cruise. That would emphasize the "you're not invited to our wedding" angle. Instead, after the cruise, send out a "we're married!" type announcement w/photo from your cruise, and use it also as the Save the Date for your celebration next year. Check Wedding Paper Divas in the Announcement category for ideas.
Good luck & best wishes, Jennifer
How about calling it a celebration party or an anniversary party (if you can get the timing right)? I see nothing wrong with that - as long as you're not redoing a whole wedding (if you are call it a vow renewal). But if you just want to have a party at some point, then that's what I do. Celebration party or anniversary party. Holding it on or near your anniversary would give it more validation with the large gap in time.
If you do send out wedding annoucement after your cruise, I may hold off on STD part for a party. I mean it's a whole year off - things happen, I certainly know my plans did not go to my visions in the least! So I just worry about telling people about it before you have a date, unless you REALLYREALLY think you're going to follow through with the party next summer.
Invitations can be worded easily, depending on whether parents or the bride and groom are hosting the event. The invitations make it clear the wedding occurred on an earlier date. There is no additional ceremony.
Mr. and Mrs. Parents
Invite you to join us
In celebrating the recent marriage of our son
Groom
To
Bride
Which took place July XX 2012 in Boulder, Colorado
Come toast the happy couple
Saturday, November XX, 2012
Name of Restaurant
Address
Or
Mr. and Mrs. Parent
Invite you to join them for drinks and hors dourves honoring
Mr. and Mrs. Newly Married Couple
Saturday, November XX, 2012
OR
Groom name wed Bride name on
July XX, 2012
Please join them in celebration
At a drinks & hors d’oeuvres reception
Hosted by .........................
Date 2012
Time
Place
ORBride and Groom wed on July XX, 2012
Please join with them and their families at a reception to celebrate.
Date:
Time:
Where:
Contact:
OR
Please join us in celebration of the recent marriage of
Name of Groom and Name of Bride
at a drinks and hors d’oeuvres reception
Date, time, address
OR
Parents of Bride
joyfully announce
the marriage of their daughter
Bride's name
to
Groom's name
Which occurred on
July XX, 2012
In Boulder, Colorado
and invite you to join them
for an evening celebration of drinks and hor's doeuvres
Saturday, the XX of November, 2012
at XX o'clock in the evening Place
Address
****Please excuse the word "drinks" on these invitation suggestions. I had originally used another word that sounds like mocktails but starts with a "c". Apparently, the censors on The Knot could only decipher the first syllable of that word, and insisted I edit my content of all "profanity".......seriously??