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Just had a bit of anxiety...

laurabublaurabub
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Mini Rant:

My aunt is throwing me a shower and she was trying to pick out invitations.  Well she ended up calling me to tell me to pick them out and tell her which ones she should order.  I said fine no problem....I don't want her to worry about silly things like which invite I would like (I'm not that picky at all).  Anyway....now I have this anxiety about this shower stuff and the wedding.  I was writing an email back with links to the invites that I liked and I could feel my face getting all red...like I was getting embarrased!!

I feel like I am asking for everyone to throw these showers for me and forcing them to spend all of this $$ on gifts and travelling to my wedding etc.  It is just hard to accept that these people "want" to do this for me.  UGH I don't like being the center of attention...I wish I was the one throwing a shower for someone else....it's much better being on that side of the table.

I need to figure out how to deal with my anxiety before any of these events come around....any suggestions?  ugh....I am all worked up now :(
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Re: Just had a bit of anxiety...

  • AbonsutAbonsut
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    Take a deep breath and know that they love you.  I had a really hard time with my shower since I wanted to play hostess (I hate sitting still).  My mom practically put me in the corner and told me to just smile and look pretty.
    If you feel really uncomfortable being the center of attention, I would mention it to the hostess and say that you just want something low key so you can spend time with those who mean the most to you at this important time.
    The pots, pans, and even those awesome linens you registered for are nothing compared to seeing your friends and family and just knowing that they are there to support you and celebrate your transition.  It's also a good time for you to turn it around and thank them for everything.
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  • HarperBargoHarperBargo
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    I totally understand where you are coming from. I have a friend who just completely stepped up and volunteered to help my sister and mom with my family shower and is throwing me a friend shower/bachelorette party. I keep telling her she doesn't need to do this and I feel bad that she is doing it. She just laughs and tells me to enjoy the moment.
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  • laurabublaurabub
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    Thanks ladies you are making me feel much better.  I just need to figure out how to be more gracious and just say "Thank You" to everyone who helps and comes to everything to help celebrate.
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  • brittneyh4brittneyh4
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    One thing you have to remember is this person volunteered to host your shower - don't feel bad! Enjoy it - hopefully you only have the one bridal shower, yeah? :)

    It's NORMAL to feel anxiety (I am big time over both shower and wedding) but think about the last time you went to a wedding and picked out a gift. Did you feel like the bride was demanding a gift, or were you excited to pick something out? No one is going to get you something massively outlandish unless they want to - and as long as you are appreciative and gracious, no one is going to feel like you're a jerk demanding all this stuff for you.

    Relax, breathe, and enjoy being a bride! :)

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