I am not sure where to begin and hopefully I can get my story across and get some sound advice. My sister is getting married and asked me to be her maid of honor (in a text message), of course I said yes, I am happy for her and want to be there for her. Well, since it is a St. Pat's day wedding there was no doubt I would be wearing green, however when I joked with her about it, she took me seriously until I had to tell her that I was kidding. So, now to the gist of things....
Her and my mom went shopping for her dress, which is what my mom did for me. The next thing I know, I get a text message that she has picked out the bridesmaids dresses and told me the style and color (I had no input and never was asked). She then wants me to go over with her and my mom to look for something for my mom to wear, which was just a ploy to get me to order my dress, which was no big deal. The dress is "Kelly Green" and I have blonde hair and medium toned skin, the dress makes me look ill if I don't have a tan again this is no big deal, I can have my hair low lighted for the wedding. While we are there and I am trying on dresses she shows me shoes that several of the other bridesmaids are getting, oh I forgot to mention that everyone else had input on the dress but me, the shoes are watermelon colored and look terrible against the dress in my opinion. Told her I really didn't like them and I would have a pair dyed to match the dress in a style I could wear. She was fine with it then but then she takes her future Sister in Law to pick up her dress and demands that I get this color shoe and has a note but in my order details that that is the color to get. This is all via text message by the way. So I text back and ask why all of the sudden are shoes a big deal and I get back that "i want the shoes to match if they are showing". The dress is a typical a-line and goes past my feet right now and shoes most likely wont show when it gets altered. Needless to say it was not a day to tick me off, I called her and went off, I said quite a few things that were building up including the fact that she didn't give her only nephew a Bday card with $5 in it. So it's been about 2 months, my mom said to take a break from each other and we have, I sent her a text about thanksgiving dinner and she hasn't responded. I am at the point that I don't want to be in her wedding nor do i want to attend and I really dont know what to do. I could use some sound advice and ideas from anyone out there who may have some, this is tearing me apart and every day I want to send an email or text telling her what I feel and that I am through.
Sorry, a little long but I really need advice and there is a lot more I could add including what she did to me on my wedding day