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amiehipkinsamiehipkins
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My mother has 2 sisters and a brother she has NEVER been able to get a long with. For the most part, because "they think they are better than her" because they work for a living to have nice things. 
My mom has been downhill since her and my dad split 10 years ago, living with friends and can't hold a job. 

So my aunt tells me today she can't come to the wedding because she has to work. (For real) I asked her if she couldn't find someone to work for her and she said it was her OT day and she would lose 8 hours.... (still for real)... So I asked her if she wasn't coming b/c of mama and that I had already had a word of prayer with her about being nice cause I want my family there. She said no, that she is replacing the windows in her trailer (yeaaa I'm for real) and it's expensive so she needs to work all she can.

What the hell? Just because this is my second wedding doesn't mean its not serious. It HURTS my feelings so bad that she isn't going to be there! She can pick up another day --- Hello? She works at a cotton mill... 

This is totally jacked up in my book. Severely. 

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  • Laurie109Laurie109 member
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    I'm sorry you are going through this. My feelings would be very hurt to if someone in my family dismissed me/my wedding with so little regard. Hang in there and smile - and try to remember that this day is about you and your FI. Forget anyone who doesn't want to be a part of it...it's really their loss. I'd rather be at a wedding than work any day of the week!
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  • ladychambers83ladychambers83 member
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    Awww Sorry you have to deal with this!
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  • AurorasEnvyAurorasEnvy
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    Yeah, it's a bummer to hear some people's "excuse" as to why they can't attend the wedding.  I know they aren't obligated to come or anything, but seriously some of them are so bad I'd rather just hear no "excuse" at all.
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  • draggiefiredraggiefire member
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    So sorry to hear that. I have an aunt that won't be coming either. (This is also my second wedding.) She works as an apartment manager and it turns out that May is one of the busiest Move-In/Move-Out months. And since this is technically a destination wedding for my family (they live in TX, I moved to VA 2.5 years ago), she's unable to take the time off to attend. But she did extend her regrets and even joked that if she could trade the first wedding for this one, she would. That does sound harsh though. It is possible that she isn't wanting to hurt your feelings by saying that your mother attending isn't the reason for her missing out. But, only she knows that. Again, so sorry to hear. I wish family could put aside drama to take joy in your day since you want them to be apart of it. They should feel honored.
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  • kimberlykhkimberlykh member
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    So sorry.  Her loss. :(
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  • LilyWater09LilyWater09 member
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    Sorry you have to deal with this.  I have something similar.  I live in PA; my paternal family WA.  My aunt wont come b/c her kids and ex husband are lazy and untrustworthy to take care of my handicap cousins - stuff they get paid daily to do!!!! But she does not trust them to be away from the boys for two nights.  But that in itself is a whole other story.  Then my Uncle who said he and his wife were coming, are not now b/c he lied to his daughter about them having money troubles so he would not have to help her out and cant spend the money on plane tickets to "keep up appearances."  Total BS.  I was able to convince my maternal Uncle who travels for work all across the world to rearrange his schedule to be here for my wedding - I am closer with my paternal family then him and they abandon me.  I am totally bitter over this.  But it wont ruin my day Laughing  Just my relationships with them for a little bit until I stop being a stubborn brat and forgive/forget. 
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  • amiehipkinsamiehipkins
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    I've decided that the people who love and care for us will be there, and the ones who aren't then I guess they didn't matter to begin with. 
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