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June 2012 Weddings

NWR: Vent well kindof wedding related

Sorry ladies to make you listen to me but I am going crazy here. So I work at a daycare center with 20 other woman. Yeah they are all woman. Imagine how that can get sometimes.
Well this week it just seems like everyone is on my A**. It is like everything I have done is wrong resulting in me getting yelled at. Example, we got a new table for my room and another girl comes over saying "I heard you got a new table I want to see". The table wasn't put together, it was against a wall. I was confused, like why would you want to see a table, it is a table. So I said "you want to see the table?" with a puzzled look. I then said "it is right there". She completely lost is. Yelling at me that I don't need to get an attitude with her and she can see it if she wants. That is one of 20 stories of how my last few days have gone at work.

So last night FI and sat down and talked about the budget. He and I have very different views of what a wedding should be. If he had it is way we would have no flower, eat pizza at the reception, and wear jeans. So needless to say to avoid conflict I am putting most of the money in for the wedding. I was married before and had really no wedding at all. Got married in the park and he and I went to Chili's after. So this time I want the wedding. I know I can't afford my absolute dream wedding but I can get close. I have a 5000 budget which IMO is a really tight budget. Esspecially since my dress cost 1/5 of that. I know I spent too much but I loved it so I got it. Anyways I am doing good staying on budget and everything. There are a few things I could cut but it they are things that are important to me. Well, anyways, I made the comment on fb that men should know you can't have a special memmoriable wedding off $1000. Oh well open the gates for the B***h comments. I mean yeah you can get married for that but not the kind of wedding I want. Is that so wrong of me to want something special. After it isn't like I am asking you loan me money for it. I was trying to be funny and it had to be taken there. Just annoys the crap out of me.

Thanks for letting me say all that, just frustrated by people.
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Re: NWR: Vent well kindof wedding related

  • People on FB are soooo touchy! I wouldn't worry about that. My FI is pretty involved, although i know if he was the sole planner of our wedding it would be similar to Pizza and beer parties! lol  Its not wrong for you to want a nice wedding, most girls dream of the day for years! 5000 is a pretty reasonable budget i think, thats about what mine is.
    As far as work, thats what happens when you work with all women. lol. I'm in nursing school, its 97% women and we have enough drama! Maybe there's a manager or suprevisor you can talk to? Or are they being jerks too?

    I hope things get better for you!
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  • I wish I could talk to my boss but she is just as touchy as everyone else if not worst. It will blow over and the drama will move to someone else. I just have to wait it out.
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  • No you aren't wrong to want that.

    But anytime you put something on FB that is
    -about weddings
    -a generalizing statement regarding either sex
    -or about money

    people are going to say stuff. Because there are so many people. And it's the internet, and easy :P

    Shrug it off. Keep planning your wedding as you want and see fit. When the day comes I'm sure your FI will be very thankful and understand why you wanted to plan something so awesome :)

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  • Regarding work...is it possible everyone's cycles are synced?

    I will say, I disagree with the comment you put on FB.  Everyone's dream wedding is different, and for some women $1000 IS enough for their special, memorable day.  It's like saying you can't buy your dream home for under $100k; some people can, just not in the form of other peoples' dream homes (e.g. major fixer-uppers, in more secluded/unpopulated areas, etc.).  That said, it does sound like the FB comments were uncalled for - especially if you're saving up for it yourself, and as you pointed out you're saving up for the type of wedding YOU want, which you can't get for $1000.  It is absurd what people get upset over online...
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  • People get touchy on fb I agree though about your budget. I've had a few people I'm not super close with but fb friends for one reason or another post on wall saying they better get an invite. Weddings make people BSC
  • I try not to make comments that are sweeping generalizations online.  If we weren't getting help, our wedding would be teeny tiny, and that's fine, but I prefer how it is now. 

    I'm sorry you are having issues at work. Does FI know you've been stressed lately? I think some guys just don't "get it" when it comes to weddings just like some women might not "get it."  My FI kind of gets it, so I'm lucky, but his already bug eyes bulge even more when he hears how much some things cost. So there's that. 

    And as always, vent away!
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