I was confirming flowers w/ the florist the other day and I had to cancel a few orders because people who were supposed to get them (like grandparents and godmothers) aren't coming now. In fact, a good deal of people FI and I always expected to be there aren't coming, which is why I'm so sad. I was literally fighting back tears while on the phone...
- First, FI's aunts and uncles were going to make a family reunion out of all of this but now that they couldn't get the rental house they all wanted, like no one is coming from his side it seems. It's sad because he already has less family that I did anyways so I know he must be bummed out. Plus a lot of favorite relatives that I had always pictured at my wedding growing up aren't coming for whatever reason. It just sucks when you look forward to seeing people that you haven't seen in years and now you can't. Plus, people you expected to be really happy and excited, haven't said jack to you about the engagement (which began a year ago!)
- A friend who I thought I was close to just went from being sooo excited when she got her STD to now not coming with no explanation or notice. Her card just said "not attending" The only thing that has changed was that I told her (after she asked) that there wasn't room for her new BF. What is it w/ ppl needing a date to everything??? I've been invited to weddings where FI and I were dating for 5 years but weren't engaged or living together, so he didn't make the cut and neither one of us cared at all. Do ppl really get upset about this? I know ppl do but, honestly, I've stopped caring so I don't even want to hear it. Can't you be there for your friend on her big day w/o it being about you having a date? She would have had plenty of ppl she knows there too.
- Two sets of grandparents can't be there because both grandpas are not in great health, which also makes me and FI heartbroken to have them miss. Family is big to us.
- Mom has been complaining about how stressed out she is about the wedding, but literally has not done a thing to help planning wise. I've made every decision on my own (or w/ FI's help) so now when I asked mom to call her cousins who still haven't RSVPed, she tells me "I can't be stressed out about this"....It's like legit, the one thing I've asked her to do and she's complaining about it. First she complains to me that she's not involved enough, now she is too stressed to handle the one task I've actually given her.
I know no one is more excited about this wedding than I am so I don't expect much but w/ the people I love not there and other ppl's attitudes, it's totally taking the wind out of my sail. Anyone else feel this way during the planning? How did you deal?