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Shower frustrations

XxKrazy4uXxKrazy4u member
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in May 2012 Weddings
My Shower is saturday. it was supposed to be a surprise but again MOH ruined that for me.
Anyway, my FMIL has mentioned my FIs sister ...the one i mentioned in the other post , icoming to the shower....mind you she hasnt seen anyone in about 4 yrs since she took off leaving her then 2 months old and 4 year old with her father and then husband to run off to california. The family isnt mad at her now, they have gotten over it, but i feel like this "family reunion" shouldnt be taking place at my shower....not to mention, my FSMIL and the issues this will cause. Am i being unreasonable here? I feel like nothing involving this wedding has been about me. even my bachelorette party was upstaged by friends who were being pissy about everything we did, eventually dragging me out of a club i was having fun at...and that feeling of disappointment sucks.  granted the bachelorette turned out great dispite those problems..i sort of wanted the shower to be all about me. hate to sound like this but im tired of catering to everyone else at my events.
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  • LuckyHeatherLuckyHeather member
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    Probably better to have the family reunion at the shower than the wedding.  Consider it a test run. ;)


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  • XxKrazy4uXxKrazy4u member
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    ^^ I considered that....trust me i took it in to consideration. but i can also see myself sitting alone at my shower bored and ticked off. my mom is the only one coming from my side.
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  • mandi921vhmandi921vh member
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    I think it's better at your shower than your wedding. My shower was not at all what I wanted, it was a surprise which I specifically said I didn't want, and I didn't even get to pick/know who was invited. Needless to say I was really upset and anxious until 10 minutes into my shower. It ended up being a great time, but what I have learned from weddings and anything WR is that although it's about you, you may not get to choose what happens.

    Just roll with it, act gracious and try not to start drama. GL!
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  • caitlinc09caitlinc09
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    I agree that it's better to happen at the shower than wedding. It's probably not going to be ideal regardless of where it happens, so better in front of all her family than all of both of yours, right?
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  • littleshrinklittleshrink member
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    I can see how you would be/are frustrated by the whole situation.  After reading your posts, can't say I blame you, I would be too.  I guess go with the punches on this one.  It is better that it is happening on Saturday vs. the wedding day.  The less drama come W day, the better.  Try to be happy and gracious and know that it is actually about you, even if it doesn't seem like it.
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  • FutureBitnerFutureBitner
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    I agree with all the other posts...be glad its not your actual wedding day.  It does suck though.  I almost had a similar situation. My FI's brother is a marine currently in Afghanistan and will be getting back right before our wedding.  He was suppose to be in it but now we now he won't be getting in for leave till 1am right after our wedding.  We are looking at the bright side that the FI's family won't be all focused on the return of his brother and not us.  Look on the bright side that your day can still be about you Smile
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  • XxKrazy4uXxKrazy4u member
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    edited April 2012
    ^^^ my FBIL is also stationed in Afghanistan. Just wanted to mention that ill say a little prayer for your FIs brother and my FIs brother tonight. ;-)
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