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Engaged--now what?

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My fiance proposed on 17 December. We told our families the next day, and our friends the day after that. :) Everyone is very happy for us, and we are completely excited. However, I keep reading about engagement announcements and photos and parties and such.

Here is my problem: we are waiting until we both finish college (~4 years) to get married. I am 19, he is 18 (young, but we've been together for five years with no intention of splitting-- ever.). Putting an egagement announcement in the paper seems premature, given the wedding is so far away. Same with photos, parties, etc. Should we wait to do those things until it is closer to the wedding date? Or are you supposed to do them right after the engagement, disregarding the faraway wedding date?

Our parents both got married young and never did any of these things, so they aren't much help. Undecided

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Re: Engaged--now what?

  • jagore08jagore08 member
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    edited January 2012
    Usually engagement announcements include when the couple plans to wed.  They are not necessary, most people I kow do not put announcements in the paper so if you want to skip it all together it's fine.

    Prewedding parties are thrown in your honor and not to be hosted by you or your FI.  Anyone can host these events.

    If you and your FI are paying for the wedding yourselves (if your parents or his parents have not offered to help), now's a good time to set up a savings budget.  Since you two have about 4 years to wed you will have plenty of time to save.

    Other than that, enjoy your engagement and good luck in school.

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  • [Deleted User][Deleted User] member
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    Thank you! I knew that we weren't supposed to have our own parties, but I've had friends ask me and I was totally lost about what to say. We are planning on paying for it ourselves, which is proving to be a lofty goal (our jobs are minimum wage and part time, since we are both full-time university students). Thank you Jagore08 for wishing us well. :)
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  • redheadfsuredheadfsu member
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    edited January 2012
    Congrats & Welcome!

    The only thing is if someone throws you an engagement party make sure only wedding guests will be invited. As everyone invited to the engagement party (or any other pre-wedding party) must be invited to the wedding. Since you are having a long engagement, plans & relationships change. Who you think will be invited to the wedding now, might not be in four years. So I would recommend skipping an engagement party to prevent any issues with the future guest list.

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  • meganb1977meganb1977 member
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    You can enjoy your engagement and start planning more maybe about 18 months from the time frame when you want to get married.  Definitely take advantage of the time to save as much as you can!
    Whoever said it was supposed to be happily ever after is a big fat liar.
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  • [Deleted User][Deleted User] member
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    edited January 2012
    Thanks guys! I appreciate the replies and advice. My friends were talking about throwing an engagement party for us, but I think I will just politely decline and tell them thanks for the offer. 
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