My sweet 16 year old brother..

Britt1893 · July 2012

passed away on July 8th, 2012. Wedding planning is going to be so hard because he was going to be best man..or at least a groomsmen. I miss him so much and I don't understand how people deal with this pain. It is so cruel, I would never wish this pain on anyone in the world! He was my brother, my first and my best friend. How do you cope?

Avion22 · July 2012

I'm really sorry for your loss.

According to your profile, your wedding is over three years away, in November of 2015. My advice would be to table wedding planning for the time being, and allow yourself and your family to heal. I know that the pain will never truly go away, but at least you can wait until some of the rawness goes away, then resume planning when it doesn't feel quite as raw.

Your brother would likely want you to continue with your plans as much as possible.

Britt1893 · July 2012

It is so hard. I miss him so much!! I regret not making as much time for him as I should have. We had the absolute best brother and sister relationship!! I know the wedding is a way out and I keep thinking about everything he would have had a part in.

boomboom1243 · July 2012

Sorry for your loss, I lost my 20 year old sister last year during childbirth and fnd it really hard to plan and sometimes become excited about things when I know she won't be up there with me. I know she will be there in spirt though and that she would be so proud of me and will love how much fun we will have we did the craziest/funniest things together and a lot of the stuff I'm doing at my wedding its in thought of her. we will be lighting a candle during our ceremony to recognize her and have a picture of her with me and my fiancee that will be at our head table. It's extremely hard to cope with losing someone so close to you \. Lean on your family they will be there for you.

balletdawn · July 2012

I don't know if anything but time helps heal that kind of loss. You will always miss him, but find ways to honor him-like I always make my dad's favorite meal on his birthday and go hiking to the place we spread his ashes. I agree that talking it over with a grief counselor is a good idea. And cry, blast music, go for a run, do whatever you gotta do. I'm so sorry.

[Deleted User] · July 2012

My dad passed away when I was 16, my mom when I was in my 30's. There is so much still I miss about them. I am so sorry for your loss. Everyone mourns differently and at their own pace. There is no right or wrong way. Take time for what you need to get through a rough patch. Do what works best for you.
For me talking and writing helped and still does.

jennipea382 · July 2012

I'm so sorry for your loss. My friend just recently lost her dad and she's asking a lot of the same questions you are. Surround yourself with family and friends and do your best to remember the good times. Hope you can find some peace at this difficult time.

monkeysip · July 2012

I'm so sorry, Britt. I can't imagine what you're going through.

It's natural to feel regrets like that, but I'm sure you were the best sister you could be. We'll always regret not spending more time with our loved ones when we lose them, but cherish the precious times you had.

Give yourself some time. I don't think anything can take the pain away, but seek whatever comfort you can in your family, friends, a counselor, or a spiritual minister if that's what you believe in.

HobokensFury · July 2012

Hugs

kmmssg · July 2012

I'm so sorry for your loss. I lost both of my parents when I was a child, and then my g'parents too. The "natural/normal/expected" cycle is that you will lose your g'parents, and you will one day lose your parents..

When I lost 2 brothers in 2006 I was blown away at how different it was to lose a sibling. You don't expect to lose your siblings! It was like being sideswiped by a cannon or something.

Hon - please consider talking to a grief counselor or a grief support group. I dealt with my parents, I dealt with my g'parents, and even one of the brothers I lost. STILL stuck on losing the other one and this is no way to live.

My heart and hugs go out to you.

My sweet 16 year old brother..

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