Wedding Part Gifts???

Re: Wedding Part Gifts???

• LDubHawksFan member

  

  January 2013

  Well, since the dresses and suits are for your wedding, most will say they don't count as their gift.  fwiw, my H is in a wedding and they are buying his suit, so it's not unheard of.  I do think, though, that you should try to gift them something else.....it doesn't have to be much, but maybe your BMs like a certain scent of lotion or something, and then a heartfelt note.  Obviously if they know your financial situation they wouldn't want you spending a ton on a gift.  If you've already told them you are buying the dresses and suits for them, then you are out of luck, but usually it is understood that being in the WP means that person pays for their own dress or suit (but you should ask and consider their budget).
   I'm glad your wedding date is so far out if you are paycheck to paycheck but saving for your big day.  Since you aren't until 2015, don't worry about specifics on WP gifts or even attire until much closer.  Just focus on the big things like budget and venue.  Good luck!

  
  

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• hbarry2428

  

  January 2013

  RetreadBride...Wait until after Christmas, and get them something based on their interests at the clearance sales. You've got a long time before you need to think about this.

  That is very helpful advice...I will do that...Thank you!

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• Xxdmariexx member

  

  January 2013

  I don't have any advice about the gift but a way to save. If you've already told them you're getting their BM dressed maybe you can get them from littleborroroweddress.com. It's only $50-75 to borrow. Haven't been able to find any reviews though so you may want to look into them if you decide to go that route.

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• itzMS member

  

  January 2013 edited January 2013

  Absolutely if your wedding isn't until 2015, you have a crazy amount of time on your hands. You shouldn't even be thinking about who will be in your wedding party until a year from now, anyways. So much can change.
  
  TBH, when I'm in a wedding party, I would rather have no gift at all than something "cheap" and/or impersonal. A heartfelt note means a lot more to me than a little $5-$10 trinket. Don't get them something just to get them something.

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• misssunshine17 member

  

  January 2013

  This is not meant to be rude, but if you're living paycheck to paycheck, should throwing a big wedding be your first priority? If your wedding is really not until 2015, wait a year and reevaluate. There's no need to do anything right this second. 

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• B2Z728 member

  

  January 2013 edited January 2013

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_wedding-part-gifts?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:465609c6-bd29-4e10-b2fd-4d8aa3e6412fPost:7d71f086-e1a7-4a23-abf7-5cfbf6a08480">Re: Wedding Part Gifts???</a>:
  [QUOTE]This is not meant to be rude, but if you're living paycheck to paycheck, should throwing a big wedding be your first priority? If your wedding is really not until 2015, wait a year and reevaluate. There's no need to do anything right this second. 
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  <div>Agree with this, and if you're on a tight budget, why pay for all their attire? Just give them guidelines of what you would like have them take care of it themselves.</div><div>
  </div><div>Since you have a long time till your wedding, be good about watching sales. You can buy their gifts way in advance or at separate times, for when the price is right. </div><div>
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• hbarry2428

  

  January 2013

  I work and go to school and my fiancee works full time too. I think that is perfectly appropriate that we have a tradition wedding. I am not planning a big wedding just something small and intimate...At the most there will be 40 guests. Just because we are working class does not mean that we do not deserve to have a wedding rather than the courthouse wedding that is something we have both done before. I appreciate the advice, I will be getting my MOH and 1 BM a little something. The Best Man and 1 groomsman will get a little something too. As this will be a DIY wedding, I am thinking gifts of the DIY nature geared toward their specific likes and needs.

   

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