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Change the date?

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As most of you know Jay and I have been strongly considering just eloping, and the more we think about it the more we love the idea. We were chatting more about it last night, and figured that since no one else is coming that we could change the date to something late next year. Do you think that is a bad idea? We haven't signed any contracts, or even starting thinking about planning the AHR. We have very minimal planning as far as the trip goes...  

We were thinking August 1st to get married, since that is the day we met.... I love the idea of us getting married on the anniversary of the day we met. 

Do you think it would rude to change the date?
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Re: Change the date?

  • If you're eloping, no guests, and have no vendors booked then why not!
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    [QUOTE]If you're eloping, no guests, and have no vendors booked then why not!
    Posted by BMcLeodTeam[/QUOTE]

    <div>That is what I thought too!! Part of it is that I don't want to wait that long to marry Jay if it is just us..... lol</div>
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  • Rude in what way?  Since you are in the very beginning of your planning I'd say it's at your discretion.  Are you afraid that eloping might make others feel left out?  When FI and I discussed eloping we both felt that we just couldn't do it b/c my family and his family would be hurt and I wouldn't want to have a wedding w/o at least my mom, sisters and brother there!  If this is what the two of you really want I say do it with no regrets!  You can always host an AHR for your close friends/family :-) 

    Oh, and we changed our wedding date about 3 times before settling on 2/23/13 lol!  Everytime we told people they were like again? lol!  But it was all vebal discussions trying to get a feel of what dates would work for certain key members of our family..it would've been rude I think if I had sent save the dates and then changed the date.

    I don't really know where "ettiquette" would come in but I hope this helps! lol!
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  • if i didn't feel that way about having my family there, i'd be an OM by now!! lol! i say the sooner for you to be married the better! lol
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  • I say do what you want to do! We changed our date a couple of times too. If you don't have anything set in stone yet, and no save the dates have gone out then do it whenever you want. Are you worried about people that you have already spoken with being upset that you decided to elope? Remember, it has to be about what the two of you want, nobody else's opinions really matter.
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    [QUOTE]Rude in what way?  Since you are in the very beginning of your planning I'd say it's at your discretion.  Are you afraid that eloping might make others feel left out?  When FI and I discussed eloping we both felt that we just couldn't do it b/c my family and his family would be hurt and I wouldn't want to have a wedding w/o at least my mom, sisters and brother there!  If this is what the two of you really want I say do it with no regrets!  You can always host an AHR for your close friends/family :-)  Oh, and we changed our wedding date about 3 times before settling on 2/23/13 lol!  Everytime we told people they were like again? lol!  But it was all vebal discussions trying to get a feel of what dates would work for certain key members of our family..it would've been rude I think if I had sent save the dates and then changed the date. I don't really know where "ettiquette" would come in but I hope this helps! lol!
    Posted by Julyet06[/QUOTE]<div>
    </div><div>I don't know, I just worry that people would say WTF? You are changing the date?! </div><div>
    </div><div>We have discussed having family there, but have decided against it due to Jay's family not being able to swing the trip financially like mine can. We just don't want his families feelings to be hurt from being excluded on the day so we figure if it is just us then when we throw the AHR for everyone it will be a little less awkward (and more fair...a least in my mind).</div><div>
    </div><div>Thanks! It does help, I just wasn't sure if it would be rude or not... but we haven't sent our anything official, it's all been chit chatting about the trip with friends. </div><div>
    </div><div>August may not even work in Barbados, I just figured that if we don't have to wait for others to save than why should we? </div><div>
    </div><div>If I had my way, we would fly down tomorrow and get married <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-wink.gif" border="0" alt="Wink" title="Wink" />

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  • If you are eloping you can change the date to whatever you want. It only affects the two of you and if the new date works for both of you, then go for it.
  • I'd be flying with you!! lol!!!  I say go for it then!  In our planning and chit chat our wedding has gone from destination to a local wedding in June 2012, then August 2012 back to a destination wedding in 2013!  No one really complained at all, they just found it amusing that we kept flip flopping and at a certain point they were like, just let me know when and where when you finally decide, lol!  But, they always made it known that they support whatever decision we made (even though we did get some lip about a destination wedding, we did not let it get to us.  and they eventually came around after realizing it's about the bride and groom and no one else!  if they still feel bitter about it, they have been kind enough to keep their opinions to themselves)
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  • I agree with the pp. :)))
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    [QUOTE]I say do what you want to do! We changed our date a couple of times too. If you don't have anything set in stone yet, and no save the dates have gone out then do it whenever you want. <strong>Are you worried about people that you have already spoken with being upset that you decided to elope?</strong> Remember, it has to be about what the two of you want, nobody else's opinions really matter.
    Posted by rach2686[/QUOTE]

    <div>It has been a concern of ours, yes. Our hope is that everyone will understand that it is what is best for us... :)</div>
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  • If you don't mind not having family there, I say go for it.  Don't worry about changing the date, FI and I changed the date and the location about 1,533,352,765 times, (just ask some people who have been here a while).  Just remember that you will not be able to make everyone happy, but as long as you and FI and happy, its okay.  :)
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  • Cathy's changed the date and location so many times, I'm still waiting for her to do it, again. ;)
  • I really appreciate all the feedback ladies, Thank you so much!!!

    All your advice has made me feel that much better about our decision. 

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  • I agree with everyone our date has.changed a few times no one has cared. It apparently happens to a lot of brides sometimes different dates just ends up working better and that's all that matters :)
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  • Oh yeah I'm all for changing your mind!
    Do what you want, it's your day!
    When friends tease me about changing plans I tell them "That's how you know it's going to be awesome! Because I keep making the plans better and better!"
  • I say do what you want. And honestly, I think eloping is awesome. Throughout my planning process I secretly wished I had. Barbados with just you and your hubby will be AMAZING.
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  • Changing the date if you're eloping is fine...

    Honestly, if just the two of you, why not Aug 1, 2012?  It's not much time, but there's also not a lot of planning if it's a simple ceremony and a romantic dinner/vacation for two.  Just sayin'
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    I agree also! My hubby and I eloped last month, it was the best decision we ever made! Waited 8 months because we booked Hawaii as a vacation and then decided to just get married there. You could certainly pull off an elopement sooner than a bigger wedding with guests! I'll never regret eloping and our families were very understanding!
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  • You can totally do it August 2012!!! ::chanting:: doo it! doo it! doo it! lol!!
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