Will You Be My Bridesmaid?

allied08 · March 2013

Hello!

I was wondering if anyone did anything fun or unique to ask your girls to be bridesmaids. I want to do something really cool, but I'm not all that creative.

Thanks!

Xstatic3333 · March 2013

I just asked mine, in person if at all possible. It was nice. There were lots of hugs and even a couple of happy tears, which was touching. I'm glad I did it that way.

AddieCake · March 2013

I much prefer the "just ask them" approach.

kerrimur · March 2013

One of my brides had custom bridesmaids cards made and delivered them in person. Another stopped by with a small champange bottle and a handmade card asking. Two other asked in person. Pinterest has some cute ideas and cards for asking BMs. I was on vacation with me FI when he proposed. I mailed my girls postcards on the last day of the trip asking them to be my BMs. It was so much fun getting phone calls from them when they got the postcards in the mail.

SlothGoals · March 2013

I'm also on team "just ask"

My sister and I stood in my kitchen and I said, "So... Will you be my Maid of Honour?" and that was that.

allied08 · March 2013

My girls pretty much know it's coming, but I want to be able to give them something or do something for them. I plan on doing it in person one way or the other.

AJuliaNJ · March 2013

My MOH asked me, but of course I was going to ask her anyway.we have that type of relationship where this wasn't weird and it just fits with her enthusiastic personality. We asked my 2 other friends while out for dinner. We asked his friend and wife at another dinner. I asked his sister in the car. I am pretty low key and would have felt awkward making a big deal out of it.

AJuliaNJ · March 2013

In Response to Re:Will You Be My Bridesmaid?:[QUOTE]My girls pretty much know it's coming, but I want to be able to give them something or do something for them. I plan on doing it in person one way or the other. : Posted by allied08[/QUOTE]

I'd hit Pinterest hard. I remember seeing a lot of these ideas on there. Let us know what you decide!

AddieCake · March 2013

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_will-you-be-my-bridesmaid?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:753588e5-f56b-4f7e-ad6e-07b49df96260Post:e6b2e4e1-9f01-4e1b-a572-02aa54f3abda">Re: Will You Be My Bridesmaid?</a>:
[QUOTE]I'm also on team "just ask" My sister and I stood in my kitchen and I said, "So... Will you be my Maid of Honour?" and that was that.
Posted by kristbot[/QUOTE]

<div>Yeah. Both my girls knew it was coming, so there was no need for pomp and circumstance. I popped my head into one's classroom (during class, no less...whatever..I was head of the department; I do what I want! <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-tongue-out.gif" border="0" alt="Tongue Out" title="Tongue Out" />) and said, "Just checking that you'll be a bridesmaid." And she responded, "Pshhhhh. Of course." I don't even think I actually asked the other one. It was just known. </div>

harper0813 · March 2013

I've been just asked, and I found it to be perfectly special and exciting. I guess I went the "pinterest-y" route and gave them a small gift (a box of macarons from Paris) and a card, since we got engaged in Paris.

Tami87 · March 2013

Another vote for just ask them. I asked my bridesmaids in person if possible or on the phone and it was still very special to me and them without something cutesy. I got to see the looks on their faces and also got some hugs and happy tears.

Also when I was asked to be a bridesmaid the bride met me for coffee and just asked. I was still completely touched.

Jen4948 · March 2013

I'd also just ask them.

Simply Fated · March 2013

I would honestly think it could be super awkward if the bridesmaid wants to say no. Didn't a bridesmaid recently post (maybe on E?) about how she was publicly asked with a gift and felt roped into saying yes?

AJuliaNJ · March 2013

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_will-you-be-my-bridesmaid?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:753588e5-f56b-4f7e-ad6e-07b49df96260Post:6567f437-50f5-4ff1-b6dd-b461d01eac45">Re: Will You Be My Bridesmaid?</a>:
[QUOTE]Your wedding is in May 2014. Please don't ask anyone until Christmas at the very earliest. It's much too early to look for their dresses, and relationships can change. You may regret asking someone by this time next year.
Posted by RetreadBride[/QUOTE]

Yes, yes, yes...Please listen to RetreadBride.

Signed,

An overzealous bridesmaid-asker

PrettyGirlLost · March 2013

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_will-you-be-my-bridesmaid?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:753588e5-f56b-4f7e-ad6e-07b49df96260Post:6567f437-50f5-4ff1-b6dd-b461d01eac45">Re: Will You Be My Bridesmaid?</a>:
[QUOTE] Your wedding is in May 2014. Please don't ask anyone until Christmas at the very earliest. It's much too early to look for their dresses, and relationships can change. You may regret asking someone by this time next year.
Posted by RetreadBride[/QUOTE]

This is completely logical, I'm with you. But, do you think it depends on people's circumstances as far as the timing and what may constitute as too early to ask?

I have been dating my FI for 11 years, we got engaged last June, wedding is next fall, and I already asked my bridesmaids. I agree, it may have been too early, but I have known these ladies for 10-15 years each, so I thought I was safe!

I'm not planning on looking for dresses or anything else until next year, I promise ladies!

allied08 · March 2013

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_will-you-be-my-bridesmaid?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:753588e5-f56b-4f7e-ad6e-07b49df96260Post:6567f437-50f5-4ff1-b6dd-b461d01eac45">Re: Will You Be My Bridesmaid?</a>:
[QUOTE] Your wedding is in May 2014. Please don't ask anyone until Christmas at the very earliest. It's much too early to look for their dresses, and relationships can change. You may regret asking someone by this time next year.
Posted by RetreadBride[/QUOTE]

<div>I know I've got time to ask, but I want them involved in everything. They are my very best friends, and have been for years. I don't want to talk to them about wedding stuff without asking them to be in my wedding first. Two of them are currently in Europe and the other lives in Texas. Since I do want to ask them in person, it's going to be a couple months till I can actually ask. </div><div>
</div><div>I found this necklace on pinterest and I think its perfect. My mom and I are going to try and make these ourselves. Should be a good project. :)</div><div>
</div><div><img src="http://img2.etsystatic.com/000/0/5383059/il_570xN.313948738.jpg" alt="Be my Bridesmaid card with necklace, personalized Bridesmaid card, bridesmaid gifts, Bridesmaid invitation, maid of honor, flower girl" /></div><div>
</div><div>
</div><div>Thanks everyone for your advice! </div>

najordan89 · March 2013

lol I just asked in person. Plain and simple.

pmg1989 · March 2013

I went the pinterest route. I found cute boxes at dollar tree, and put a ring pop in them. On the lid I wrote "Now it's my turn to pop the question...will you be my bridesmaid/maid of honor?" I also found some cute friendship poems online, and wrote them out on cardstock to include in the box. All three of us (I'm only having two girls stand up with me) were away at school at the time, so I mailed the boxes to them. One called and told me she had been having a really rough week and that the box made her so happy- she went around and showed it to every girl in her sorority house. The other one had opened her box in the mailroom of her dorm and started screaming "I''m gonna be a bridesmaid!!" Haha so that was pretty fun, and it was something they apprecitaed- but their personailites are into that kind of thing. Otherwise I probably would have just asked.

Mrsbarrows · March 2013

Hi,

I gave my bridesmaids the Bridesmaids DVD and a card in this giftbag. There was a matching card too.

https://www.etsy.com/listing/123758805/bridesmaid-giftbags-set-of-6-or-number?

[Deleted User] · March 2013

I got a clear jar. Printed their names, and on the other side put how I felt about them. Then inside it had a candle (my mom who passed loved candles), nail polish, cookies, face mask, and other little items. Then on the lid it says BD, MaidOH, or MatronOH. It was a lot of fun.

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