honoring the deceased

jrenee12 · January 2012

Both of my fiance's parents passed several years ago. His Mom died when he was 15 and his Dad passed 3 years later. They weren't married. I want to acknowledge and honor them somehow during the ceremony or at the reception but I'm unsure how. I see several ideas if it were my parents but what can we do to honor them without bringing down the tone of the event? Thanks!!

angeepangee · January 2012

I had both of my grandfathers pass away this past year and to honor them, we are putting a frame with room for multiple pictures on a side table in the entrance of the church with each grandparent that passed away. One of the frames in the piece will have a paper saying something along the lines of.. in loving memory of blah blah blah. We miss you. (still not entirely sure what we are going to say). We will also have a nice candle next to it.

Since we are Catholic, we will also honor them during the Mass as well.

Chrismben0716 · January 2012

We are trying to come up with something too...my fiance's father passed away when he was 12. There are also a few other family members that we want to honor. I saw an idea of doing a memorial tree.... kinda like a wishing tree except with pictures of the people we want to honor. I think that is what we are going to do and put a frame with some kind of saying have not worked it all out. We will put it on a small table near the guestbook and other items we will have displayed at the church. I put in a picture I got of of pinterest were we go the idea.

cgyvhu · January 2012

I've seen people leave an empty chair in the spot where a parent would usually sit in honor of that person. People often leave a rose on that seat or the person's favorite flower.

A mention in the program (if you have one) about honoring those who could not be there is a nice gesture. As are having pictures of his parents somewhere out during the reception.

I would choose to do 1-2 things, but not more, as then it becomes a little sad.

em01092 · January 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_april-2012-weddings_honoring-deceased?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:05427f07-4ba2-44d6-9271-99a7af1ee5c0Discussion:74e1c361-ec23-4bda-b11a-9fe17db108faPost:ef1208e6-f4bd-4b12-ba1e-b758ca2b6924">Re: honoring the deceased</a>:
[QUOTE]I've seen people leave an empty chair in the spot where a parent would usually sit in honor of that person. People often leave a rose on that seat or the person's favorite flower. A mention in the program (if you have one) about honoring those who could not be there is a nice gesture. As are having pictures of his parents somewhere out during the reception. <strong>I would choose to do 1-2 things, but not more, as then it becomes a little sad.</strong>
Posted by mdphd[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>Ditto all of this, especially the bolded part. I definitely think it's sweet to honor your loved ones and you should totally do something, but if you do too much, it may seem like more of a memorial service than a wedding, you know?</div><div>
</div><div>Think about it this way: would your FI's parents want you grieving on a joyful day such as your wedding? I'd like to think they'd want you to be happy.

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mybestfriend4eva · January 2012

My mother has passed away and my fiances grandmother who raised him has passed away as well. We plan to light in memory candles for them at our ceremony, take a moment of silence to remember those who cant be with us on our day, have a bouquet of their fav flowers in the first seats on bride and grooms side reserving what would have been their seat, and then we will place those bouquets in vases with in memory of on them at our reception. Im sorry for both of your losses and hope you can find some wonderful ways to happily pay respect to them.

brandym22 · January 2012

Ditton on the tree! I am going to do this. I was going to post it myself, then I saw it was already posted. It's called a "living tree", we are buying one, it's like $40... Then you have it to keep. my finances grandfathers and brother have past away, and my dad and grandpa are deceased as well. It's perfect, simple, and speaks to the point they're with you in spirit.

naybug2 · January 2012

We are having our cousins carry in pictures of our deceased grandparents and placing them on a table near the stage right before the living grandparents are escorted in.

The mothers are lighting their candles off of the memorial candle as well

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