Hi all...Im new here...kind of. About 4 years ago I was engaged when I joined the knot but by the time my daughter was born he had completely changed and we went our separate ways.
Since then I have found the most amazing guy in the world. He treats me like his equal, unlike my last relationship, he loves me dearly, and he even treats my daughter like his own. When introduced to his friends and family he even introduced us as his family and Chloe was OUR daughter. It made my heart glow to realize what a wonderful guy I have.
We were both engaged once before and as he explained to me he was forced into his engagement. His ex went as far as buying the ring and telling him he could pay her back for it.
Because of his prior experience hes hesitant. We have both decided after a year and a half that we do want to get married some day soon. We know its going to happen and we have actually talked alot about our wedding and where it will be and how many people we want, etc. But he doesnt consider us engaged only because we cant fit an engagement ring into a budget.
Ive tried explaining to him that a big expensive ring isnt important to me, and being married to him is the only thing that matters but he doesnt seem to believe me and I think it has alot to do with the fact that his last ex cared more about her ring and her wedding than actually being married to him.
I dont know how to show him that I am not like that. I mean, I know he knows I am nothing like her, but I think hes afraid Ill be disappointed if I dont have a ring. Does anyone have any suggestions on how I can make him belive that, although a ring is pretty, it isnt the most important thing in the world to me.