"When should I put in for my vacation time?"

Re: "When should I put in for my vacation time?"

• artbyallie mod

  

  January 2013

  Well, you should not have picked bridesmaids when you don't have a wedding date selected/booked, for one thing. Depending on their jobs, some of them may need to ask off very early. Depending on the exact date, some may not be allowed to ask off at all.

  

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• AddieCake member

  

  January 2013

  Do they live out of town?  If not, why would they need to take off for those parties, which are generally on the weekend? 

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• msuprincess04 member

  

  January 2013

  Tell them that you don't plan showers or the bachelorette party. So you can't give them a date for that or say whether you'll even have them. However if someone does elect to throw you one then you'll let them know.

  "There is always some madness in love. But there is also always some reason in madness." -Friedrich Nietzsche, "On Reading and Writing"

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• Jen4948 member

  

  January 2013

  I'd tell them that you can't give them dates until you know that yourself...which won't be until someone volunteers to host those events on your behalf, as you can't do it yourself.

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• banana468 member

  

  January 2013

  I'm interpreting it as a fear of BMs not making it to showers  / bachelorette parties if they need to request time off this far in advance and those functions aren't usually planned until the wedding is closer.
  
  Just tell them the days your'e taking off for the wedding if you can nail down those dates now.

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• Summer2011Bride member

  

  January 2013

  If you're talking about the shower and bach party dates, you don't plan those. Someone else offers to host them, so in that case, you would need to work with the host(s) around their schedule. I've never heard of showers or pre-wedding parties being planned 11 months out to be honest. Unfortunately, I don't think you can give them dates for those things yet. Two of my BMs couldn't make it to my shower or b-party and it wasn't the end of the world.

  
  
  
  
  

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• ftrmrsklepper

  

  January 2013

  I actually do have the wedding date set and the venue booked.....
  
  
  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_when-should-i-put-in-for-my-vacation-time?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:60460d2f-25d4-4fb4-a561-1bd6fde7a46bPost:113fa611-d301-4f4d-ad21-260f84cb44b2">Re: "When should I put in for my vacation time?"</a>:
  [QUOTE]Well, you should not have picked bridesmaids when you don't have a wedding date selected/booked, for one thing. Depending on their jobs, some of them may need to ask off very early. Depending on the exact date, some may not be allowed to ask off at all.
  Posted by artbyallie[/QUOTE]

  

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• [Deleted User] member

  

  January 2013 edited January 2013

  Let them know the wedding date so they can put in the time.  My husband has to put in his vacation time a year in advance as they approve/deny for the entire department in a bid and then after that you may not have the same priority in getting the time.

  
  

  Assuming they are asking about the shower and bachelorette, you are not supposed to host these for yourself and although they are customarily thrown by BP members or family, you are not in charge of planning them and so should not have to provide these dates.  Those parties are optional.  I had 2 of 4 bridesmaids able to attend the bachelorette my MOH hosted.  

  
  

  ETA:  I am not implying you should be expecting that these parties happen either as they are not a requirement.  No matter the circumstance, you should not be the host.

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• daveANDkristen member

  

  January 2013

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_when-should-i-put-in-for-my-vacation-time?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:37Discussion:60460d2f-25d4-4fb4-a561-1bd6fde7a46bPost:87f5cc1f-58fe-425f-86e8-4e1d8c03a49a">Re: "When should I put in for my vacation time?"</a>:
  [QUOTE]I actually do have the wedding date set and the venue booked..... In Response to Re: "When should I put in for my vacation time?" :
  Posted by ftrmrsklepper[/QUOTE]
  
  So why didn't you respond to the many posts that followed that one?  Some posters were unclear whether you meant the wedding date or the dates of pre-wedding parties like a shower or bachelorette party. 
  
  Like PP said, you don't throw yourself a shower or b. party.  So I would just let your BMs know that no one has mentioned having these parties yet, so you are not sure what the dates will be, if any.  It is very early to be nailing down dates for those things anyway.  My shower and bachelorette party dates were not set until within 6 weeks of each event.  More than a few months in advance is extreme overkill.
  
  If someone does offer to throw you a shower or b. party, please be flexible with your bridesmaids.  If they are already asking for dates, I assume they will need to travel.  If they do not have the dates far enough in advance and are unable to attend, be understanding and enjoy your party anyway.  So many brides get bent out of shape if their BMs are not involved in every pre-wedding event.  Sometimes it is just not possible to make the arrangements.

  
  

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• ftrmrsklepper

  

  January 2013

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_when-should-i-put-in-for-my-vacation-time?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:60460d2f-25d4-4fb4-a561-1bd6fde7a46bPost:c6a3dc08-8cd4-4176-bd6b-56a39a435492">Re: "When should I put in for my vacation time?"</a>:
  [QUOTE]In Response to Re: "When should I put in for my vacation time?" : So why didn't you respond to the many posts that followed that one?  Some posters were unclear whether you meant the wedding date or the dates of pre-wedding parties like a shower or bachelorette party.  Like PP said, you don't throw yourself a shower or b. party.  So I would just let your BMs know that no one has mentioned having these parties yet, so you are not sure what the dates will be, if any.  It is very early to be nailing down dates for those things anyway.  My shower and bachelorette party dates were not set until within 6 weeks of each event.  More than a few months in advance is extreme overkill. If someone does offer to throw you a shower or b. party, please be flexible with your bridesmaids.  If they are already asking for dates, I assume they will need to travel.  If they do not have the dates far enough in advance and are unable to attend, be understanding and enjoy your party anyway.  So many brides get bent out of shape if their BMs are not involved in every pre-wedding event.  Sometimes it is just not possible to make the arrangements.
  Posted by daveANDkristen[/QUOTE]
  
  I didn't really feel like responding to everyone that misread. You were the first to post so I responded to you. Nothing personal. Thanks for the advice.

  

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• daveANDkristen member

  

  January 2013

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_when-should-i-put-in-for-my-vacation-time?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:37Discussion:60460d2f-25d4-4fb4-a561-1bd6fde7a46bPost:cbe56332-5f51-4920-a475-123b50632e61">Re: "When should I put in for my vacation time?"</a>:
  [QUOTE]In Response to Re: "When should I put in for my vacation time?" : I didn't really feel like responding to everyone that misread. You were the first to post so I responded to you. Nothing personal. Thanks for the advice.
  Posted by ftrmrsklepper[/QUOTE]
  
  You probably won't be back to this thread, but FYI your responses in this thread are coming off very rude.  Many people tried to give you advice and asked for clarification. You offered no clarification.  I asked why you would not answer the follow up questions and you said you didn't feel like it.  Then why did you come on at all?

  
  

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