Is there still a "thing" about wearing red to a wedding?

sarah0725 · August 2010

I don't think there is, but I'm just making sure. I'm going to a wedding in CA on Saturday, and I'm still in Italy as of today, and all my clothes are in storage, so I decided to buy a dress while I was in Naples, and due to a language barrier with the attendant and the overall insanity that takes hold of me when strangers look at me while I'm in my underwear, I ended up walking out with a dress that is FIRE ENGINE HARLOT RED. Please reassure me that everyone won't be fluttering their fans and talking about what a loose woman I am.

ohwhynot · August 2010

Well, it won't be because of the red dress.

IIRC, unless the people getting married are Chinese, you're good to go.

Calypso1977 · August 2010

i feel like at one point, Red was like Black - just not worn at weddings. but its ok now. many put their BM's in red.

missy68 · August 2010

Well, then call me Scarlett Harlot, because I wore a red dress to a friend's wedding 10 years ago. I stood out, and I'm sure my Laura Ashley-dressed friend thought naughty things about me.

I'd think you're okay.

LD1970 · August 2010

I have an awesome red dress that I wear to weddings all the time.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown · August 2010

You're good. :-)

Did someone say a few weeks ago that wearing gray means you're mourning the wedding? Or that you slept with the groom? Cause I'm thinking about wearing gray to a wedding next week and I've never even met the groom.

sarah0725 · August 2010

Yay! The bride and groom are not Chinese.

sarah0725 · August 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_there-still-thing-wearing-red-wedding?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:72ccb97f-e155-4f49-a002-01b45d25365bPost:c28b2cba-5b18-44fe-bf83-4c4c7b8e5759">Re: Is there still a "thing" about wearing red to a wedding?</a>:
[QUOTE]You're good. :-) Did someone say a few weeks ago that wearing gray means you're mourning the wedding? Or that you slept with the groom? Cause I'm thinking about wearing gray to a wedding next week and I've never even met the groom.
Posted by msmerymac[/QUOTE]

Ha! We should make up a whole list of ridiculous meanings for wedding guest colors, and then just assume that all of our guests ascribe to them.

I hear if you wear purple, you slept with the groom's dad.

nhelene · August 2010

If it's got a slit up to the wazoo you might make some waves... otherwise you'll be fine.

Aimee8314 · August 2010

Or Indian - indian brides wear red too.
but I don't think many of the "rules" really apply anymore.

beatlesgirl25 · August 2010

Well now I kinda want to see this dress.

I'm assuming it's not a very harlotty dress, just the color, so wear it and have fun! I'm sure it will catch people's eye, but in a good way.

Brie2010 · August 2010

Nope. MIL wore red to our wedding and she is definitely not a ho.

sarah0725 · August 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_there-still-thing-wearing-red-wedding?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:72ccb97f-e155-4f49-a002-01b45d25365bPost:636dc6f9-6c65-4e43-8548-db3d0e7d9f45">Re: Is there still a "thing" about wearing red to a wedding?</a>:
[QUOTE]Well now I kinda want to see this dress. :) I'm assuming it's not a very harlotty dress, just the color, so wear it and have fun! I'm sure it will catch people's eye, but in a good way.
Posted by beatlesgirl25[/QUOTE]

I'll post a pic after I wear it to the wedding - it'll probably look better that way than if I give you the MySpace hostel special right now. :)

It's not all that harlotty, other than the color, and it falls above my knees, which is shorter than I usually wear because I'm tall and pale. But I'll rock it with pride.

beatlesgirl25 · August 2010

I'm sure you'll look amazing.

Can't wait for pics!

sarah0725 · August 2010

Seriously, though, I definitely need to make sure somebody comes with me when I go wedding dress shopping, when the time comes. As soon as I'm in a situation where a saleslady is barging in and out of the changing room while I'm in my skivvies, I start getting very flustered and making questionable decisions.

beatlesgirl25 · August 2010

Are you asking me to go wedding dress shopping with you, Sarah? Because that's what I'm hearing.

I hear you though, especially if you're in a place like DB (where I got my dress from). I think it's okay to just keep telling yourself, "I can always come back. The dresses will still be here tomorrow." Even if you end up going 5 times to the same place, so what? When else will you be as concerned with one piece of clothing for the rest of your life?

sarah0725 · August 2010

Hehe, that would be awesome! I'd enjoy it.

But yeah... I'll just have to take things slowly. I can get way too pressured by people.

beatlesgirl25 · August 2010

Aw, I hear you. Your plan to bring someone along is smart, and you will have a great time! I had to take my sister to be my "She said she didn't like it, okay?" person. I'm sure you know at least one super-assertive person with good taste.

sarah0725 · August 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_there-still-thing-wearing-red-wedding?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:72ccb97f-e155-4f49-a002-01b45d25365bPost:7399568a-b86f-4e06-b3a9-540a2569dfdf">Re: Is there still a "thing" about wearing red to a wedding?</a>:
[QUOTE]Aw, I hear you. Your plan to bring someone along is smart, and you will have a great time! I had to take my sister to be my "She said she didn't like it, okay?" person. I'm sure you know at least one super-assertive person with good taste.
Posted by beatlesgirl25[/QUOTE]

Hahaha, I should probably bring somebody other than my mom, then. I went once with her just to get some ideas of what I might like, and she pretty much cries whatever I put on. Maybe I should go for a mom/FMIL tag team. :)

beatlesgirl25 · August 2010

Sounds like a great plan!

Angrytomato · August 2010

What is this, 1847? Do people really have such concerns in this day and age? The color doesn't matter. Just make sure your ankles aren't showing, you don't want the church ladies to whisper