First dance and father daughter dance

run4funjb · February 2012

Ok so my parents are big into ballroom dancing. They have taken lessons for years and go to dances like once a month. For the father daughter dance my parents are working on coordinating a routine which they will then TRY to teach me.

My fiance and I have no dance skills. When I told him about this he got upset, saying he will look dumb in our dance and with his mom b/c those dances will not be "fancy."
We don't have the time or money to take lessons ourselves and my parents live to far away.

I didn't think it was a big deal but am now worried. Will it look silly if my fiance and I just do a normal slow dance. Thoughts please and thank you!

mamameech · February 2012

You don't have to be anyone you aren't. But if you want to, maybe your parents could teach you guys a little? That would be nice

[Deleted User] · February 2012

We won two dance lessons at at bridal fair and just took them and it is hard! I origianlly wanted this big choreographed dance but now I feel like it's so much added pressure to have a specific dance that you aren't comfortable doing. I'd say just do it your own way...you'll both feel less stressed and your guests will love it just as much.

wineo929 · February 2012

Your first dance... Your way!

ETA: Like Burger King... Have it your way haha (Too much coffee and work is slow...)

volleygurl0306 · February 2012

I think you should do whatever your FI is comfortable with. Ballroom dancing is not easy. I went to a wedding where they clearly has taken lessons because you could tell them were counting and every step was calculated. It looked so unnatural. I honestly would have preferred a middle school both-handsaround-his-neck sway if they looked comfortable and like they were enjoying themselves. Maybe have them teach you a few things if they are things that come natural. You should look like you are having fun and idk maybe be able to talk to each other about the fact that you just got married instead of thinking. You get one first dance and if you are distracted by what step to do next I feel like it'll pass you right by.

adktd2boots · February 2012

I think your father/daughter should be something meaningful to you and your father, not something to your mother and father.

romamor4 · February 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_september-2012-weddings_first-dance-father-daughter-dance?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:a464c18c-2e4d-469b-8eae-3865079cb9cfDiscussion:d10a64e4-35df-437a-b3a6-af6a84b786d8Post:d8d83a0a-71c7-4608-8c46-a4b63468fedc">Re: First dance and father daughter dance</a>:
[QUOTE]I think your father/daughter should be something meaningful to you and your father, not something to your mother and father.
Posted by adktd2boots[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>Ditto this. If it's not you, then don't do it. If it's going to upset your FI along with being uncomfortable then that's double reason to rethink it!

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dawnie204 · February 2012

My FSIL took dance lessons with her dad and when the time came for them to dance together, she said she forgot EVERYTHING. So, they just improved. If it's not your thing, then I think you should not do it fancy. Just be yourselves. Nobody will think it's weird.

BMcLeodTeam · February 2012

I agree with the others. There is no need to add stress trying to be someone you're not! Just do what fits you and your FI

CowgirlK39 · February 2012

For F/D maybe you can try what they came up with and if you don't feel okay doing it then say so. As for first dance, I don't think you should do ballroom since your FI isn't into it. Like PPs said, if he is too focussed on steps, he won't be able to enjoy the fact that THIS is your first dance together as a married couple.

SCogs18 · February 2012

FI and I are taking lessons (my Christmas gift) for our first dance and you is a serious work out, but the basics are pretty easy to grasp. Perhaps you could let your parents show you the basics and use some of those in your first dance. It's a happy compromise.

ekk120 · February 2012

Honestly, I think that the normal 8th grade dance slow dancing is actually a little more romantic! I have seen both the ballroom dancing and the regular old hug-and-rock at weddings. I am looking forward to just being out on the dance floor and enjoying the moment with my FI rather than making sure I remember every step. Ballroom dancing is a passion and hobby for a lot of people, and therefore its a good fit for their wedding. But like PP said -- do what makes YOU guys happy

adktd2boots · February 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_september-2012-weddings_first-dance-father-daughter-dance?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:a464c18c-2e4d-469b-8eae-3865079cb9cfDiscussion:d10a64e4-35df-437a-b3a6-af6a84b786d8Post:c3be2db0-5ecd-41ac-8715-6c8c815eaa57">Re: First dance and father daughter dance</a>:
[QUOTE]Honestly, I think that the normal<strong> 8th grade dance slow dancing</strong> is actually a little more romantic! I have seen both the ballroom dancing and the regular old hug-and-rock at weddings. I am looking forward to just being out on the dance floor and enjoying the moment with my FI rather than making sure I remember every step. Ballroom dancing is a passion and hobby for a lot of people, and therefore its a good fit for their wedding. But like PP said -- do what makes YOU guys happy :)
Posted by ekk120[/QUOTE]

HA! "Leave room for Jesus" is what the kids at the high school I taught at used to joke about. Then they would grind the fast songs.

One of my fellow FFA Advisors walked around with a hat flashlight in the dances, and if you were getting too close, he would do the maglite test. Are you maglite width apart?

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