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No Bridal Party?

juliemac1221shsujuliemac1221shsu member
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so i have deleted my post- i didn't expect to encounter an entire group of bitches when my question. 

YOU ARE NOT THE QUEEN OF WEDDINGS, OR YOU WOULDN'T BE HERE EITHER.  there is no handbook on what to do and how to do it. I had a quick wedding, he's in the military- not that it's ANY your business.  don't sit there and tell me to 'grow-up'.  I just wanted to know what people would think if I didn't put them in my wedding party even though they had me in theirs.  simple question. 

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  • mandi195mandi195
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    If I read that correctly, you're already married. This means no re-do wedding, for any reason... no bridal party, none of it. You chose to elope, so you chose that over a wedding which would include family and friends. And yes, you likely have already put yourself in a spot where feelings will be hurt, since you haven't been honest with those closest to you about your eloping.
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  • AddieCakeAddieCake member
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    If you already got married without a wedding party, what would be the point of including a wedding party in your do-over? And when is the do-over happening? Unless it is on a milestone anniversary, which makes a lovely occasion for a vow renewal, I don't see the point of having eloped in the first place.
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  • mcda04mcda04 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_no-bridal-party?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:a6fa4a26-ebb9-409f-8e0a-a2b910b3f620Post:faf6e951-3585-4b14-b73c-19c7e8a716c6">No Bridal Party?</a>:
    [QUOTE]I'm planning a very low-key wedding. I am not doing it in order to save on the budget, but I am not the type to like all the hype and attention.  I am only doing the wedding for my family and his family.  Not for us.  We got engaged and then secretly eloped last week  already (same day we got engaged) and I would be fine with just that.  I have been in four of my closest friends weddings, and I feel like they would all expect to be in mine.  I'm thinking I might have just a maid of honor, and he will have just a best man and keep it simple.  Will there be hurt feelings if we don't include more?  Will I later regret not having more? 
    Posted by juliemac1221shsu[/QUOTE]

    You can't plan a WEDDING because you're already married. Tell your family and friends you're already married but will have a party at home with food and drinks. You don't need attendants for a party or showers.
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  • MyNameIsNotMyNameIsNot member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_no-bridal-party?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:a6fa4a26-ebb9-409f-8e0a-a2b910b3f620Post:faf6e951-3585-4b14-b73c-19c7e8a716c6">No Bridal Party?</a>:
    [QUOTE]I'm planning a very low-key wedding. I am not doing it in order to save on the budget, but I am not the type to like all the hype and attention.  I am only doing the wedding for my family and his family.  Not for us.  We got engaged and then secretly eloped last week  already (same day we got engaged) and I would be fine with just that.  I have been in four of my closest friends weddings, and I feel like they would all expect to be in mine.  I'm thinking I might have just a maid of honor, and he will have just a best man and keep it simple.  Will there be hurt feelings if we don't include more?  Will I later regret not having more? 
    Posted by juliemac1221shsu[/QUOTE]

    <div>You need to act like a grownup and tell your family that you already got married.  If you are old enough and mature enough to get married, you are old enough and mature enough to be honest with your family.  </div><div>
    </div><div>Starting out your marriage with the colossal lie and joke you are planning is utterly wrong.  </div>
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  • Simply FatedSimply Fated member
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    "Will there be hurt feelings if we don't include more?" This is what you're worried about them having hurt feelings about? Come clean then ask them. See what they say.
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  • TheVirginiansTheVirginians member
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    edited December 2012
    Sounds like you're planning a party as you already had your wedding. That means you won't need any wedding party, just honored friends and families to celebrate your marriage. Have fun!
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  • Jen4948Jen4948 member
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    edited December 2012
    If you eloped, then you are already married, and you'd better let your family and friends know now.  Since already married couples aren't allowed to have another ceremony per etiquette,  this is an excuse to forgo the do-over ceremony.  But you have to be honest with everyone-don't continue to pretend that you're not married, because you are.  Eloping does indeed = getting married-it just doesn't have the big white elements.
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  • JaneAustensGhostJaneAustensGhost member
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    You are lying to your FAMILY and you're concerned they'll be upset about the bridal party - which is not approrpriate at all since you're already married?   That's some backward priorities.  Tell them you're married, forgo this fake wedding, and call it a day.
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  • juliemac1221shsujuliemac1221shsu member
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    wow you girls are total BITCHES!!!!!!!!

    I didn't ask your advice on eloping. I didn't ask your advice on what you thought about what I did.  He's inthe military and it's common.  WHO ARE YOU TO TELL ME YOU CAN't have a 're-do wedding'?? WHAT THE HELL KIND OF COMMUNITY GROUP ARE YOU EFFING LADIES A PART OF IF YOU ALL YOU OFFER IS REDICULOUSLY NEGATIVE COMMENTS????????
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  • mcda04mcda04 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_no-bridal-party?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:a6fa4a26-ebb9-409f-8e0a-a2b910b3f620Post:1c240dbd-0369-498c-8fde-2cca4971bdb4">Re: No Bridal Party?</a>:
    [QUOTE]wow you girls are total BITCHES!!!!!!!! I didn't ask your advice on eloping. I didn't ask your advice on what you thought about what I did.  He's inthe military and it's common.  WHO ARE YOU TO TELL ME YOU CAN't have a 're-do wedding'?? WHAT THE HELL KIND OF COMMUNITY GROUP ARE YOU EFFING LADIES A PART OF IF YOU ALL YOU OFFER IS REDICULOUSLY NEGATIVE COMMENTS????????
    Posted by juliemac1221shsu[/QUOTE]

    Lol. Thank you. Same to you. :)

    The advice was given based on the information YOU provided. If you are already married, then you're planning a vow renewal and a vow renewal months later doesn't make sense. if you insist on having one though, you need to know that a vow renewal has no bridal party because it's not a wedding.

    A bridesmaid is an attendant to a wedding and that one already took place.

    If people told you to grow up is because keeping a wedding a secret is VERY immature. if you don't care about having a party then don't have one. Grow up and stand up to your family.

    Congratulations on your WEDDING. <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-laughing.gif" border="0" alt="Laughing" title="Laughing" />

    Oh and one more thing, It's kinda pointless to delete your post when you've been quoted. We can still see your OP.
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