I mean, I never thought I had bad ettiquette before, but now I constantly find myself judging other people's comments to me. I don't know if it's good or bad, because obviously I have learned a lot and am doing things differently than I would have if i had not known. but it's really making me question a lot of people that i once thought were much better at ettiquette than myself.
anyone else feel like this?
for example, my MOH is one of the nicest and kindest people i have ever met. in HS she was the one to win all the awards for being the best team player and stuff like that. she always cares so much about other people, and takes care of them (she's a nurse which is perfect for her).
she got married last year. she had five (!!) showers. i was talking to her the other day and she was asking if FI's family was throwing me a shower, and i said no. I thought it would be weird for them to do that, i mean, yes they know me, but i'm not part of their family yet. she seemed to think like this was against ettiquette and that they were supposed to throw you one. she told me it was a point of contention when her husband's family did not throw her a shower. and i was just like WHAT?!? 1. she had FIVE other showers. (she could have declined one or several of them, but instead had them all and acted like she had to). 2. NO ONE has to throw you a shower. you shouldn't expect anyone to. knowing how she is, i was shocked she would say something like this.
and then her family which is sort of like a second family to me (i got to know her aunts all really well after going to all of her showers), keeps asking to be invited to my wedding. like, i get it, but we just don't have room. i'm already 25 people over the limit we can have in our reception hall, and that's without plus ones. i can't really add another 10 people just because they ask me nicely.
i'm just so surprised that people that seem so genuine and caring can be so lacking in ettiquette. i'm nervous TK has made me a snob.
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