Okay, so this is a potentially awkward situation. My ex-step dad was a huge part of my life from age 8-16. I love him, and he was a huge father figure to me as I was growing up. Unfortunately my mom and he had a bitter break-up. It would mean so much to me to invite him to my wedding. I haven't seen him since my high school graduation (which he came to even though they were no longer together) mostly due to the fact that my mom hates him so much. Well, she and I aren't close at all. In fact, she may be "boycotting" my wedding due to other issues. So the question is, do I invite the ex-stepdad? I would love to have him there. But things with my mom are so touch-and-go, it might push her over the edge. If she knew I had invited him, she would likely not attend and may not speak to me for months/years (that's her version of punishment). Or she might even make a scene at the wedding and try to upset or hurt me (emotionally, she often tries to ruin my happiness). I know, its pathological. Then again, she might not even show. I would hate to leave him out for her sake, since he was a much more positive figure in my life. Thoughts?