My RSVP vent

butterflyjumper1 · July 2012

my parents were on a two-week vacay, so we haven't seen RSVP cards for the past two weeks. they got home last night and gave me a final update.

WE STILL HAVE 44 PEOPLE WHO HAVEN'T RSVPD. SO MAD.

I am trying to message people now. ugh. one of my friends told me "oh, I don't really check my mail much so I never saw the invitation!" WHAT? WHO ARE YOU? WHO DOESN"T CHECK THEIR MAIL?

also, neither my boss nor my fiance's boss have RSVPd. it's so awkward to ask them where their RSVP card is. UGH.

end vent. thank you. since my date is later than some of you i am one of the last ones to be dealing with this hideous annoyance.

tealeyedangel · July 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_july-2012-weddings_my-rsvp-vent?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:066005ef-215f-48b1-8655-328b41e07c52Discussion:2bdcca45-48c4-4556-ac7e-a8fc131c41f1Post:0840d9fe-cd88-4d0f-9076-3bbbbe3d253a">My RSVP vent</a>:
[QUOTE]my parents were on a two-week vacay, so we haven't seen RSVP cards for the past two weeks. they got home last night and gave me a final update. WE STILL HAVE 44 PEOPLE WHO HAVEN'T RSVPD. SO MAD. I am trying to message people now. ugh. one of my friends told me<strong><em> "oh, I don't really check my mail much so I never saw the invitation!" </em></strong>WHAT? WHO ARE YOU? WHO DOESN"T CHECK THEIR MAIL? also, neither my boss nor my fiance's boss have RSVPd. it's so awkward to ask them where their RSVP card is. UGH. end vent. thank you. since my date is later than some of you i am one of the last ones to be dealing with this hideous annoyance.
Posted by butterflyjumper1[/QUOTE]

<div>Are you flipping serious?! soooo um ya haven't checked your mail in 2 months?! bet your post man is uber happy with you...that seems odd...</div>

dawnleanna1 · July 2012

How annoying I know! My date is the same as yours and we are just now trying to track down non RSVP's. I honestly think that many ppl just don't think they need to RSVP and that it's more of a courtesy. I swear like 50% of FI's side did not RSVP. I made him a list and said he's calling. He made a bunch of calls and I couldn't believe how many ppl that didn't RSVP are planning on coming! I would have just marked them all as declined...lol.

butterflyjumper1 · July 2012

my friend is like "my roommate checks the mail and I never look at it when he brings it inside". he is such a space cadet. he's like oh yea, i think i can make it, when is it again?!?

dawnleanna for us its the opposite! lots of these people who don't send cards in are just like oh, well of course i am not going! YOU HAVE TO TELL US EITHER WAY, thanks for being so considerate.

fiance definitely has more on his side that did not RSVP than on my side, I need him to start calling ASAP before I get annoyed! (I emailed all of my side this morning and am anxiously awaiting their excuses for not sending the card in)

colleenm18 · July 2012

My FSIL does not check her mail very often either, she has a PO box and just doesnt go to it often, its annoying.

I have one co-worker who has not responded yet and its SO annoying! I sent her a FB message and still nothing back!

k8888 · July 2012

Wtf is wrong with people? Like, are you that socially inept that you can't respond to an invitation? How much easier can you make it to RSVP, too? You provide these idiots with a prepaid envelope... all they have to do is draw a lousy little checkmark.

I wasted SO MANY stamps on family and friends who didn't even have the decency to send it back.

THANK GOD we only have to do this once, right?

michelle11988 · July 2012

Ugh that sucks! Who doesn't check their mail for months?! I'm so glad that nonRSVP chapter of my life is over.

tealeyedangel · July 2012

I have one better....we sent out invites and RSVP cards, all prestamped and addressed....even called to verify addys with friends and family....sent one...never got a response....called that person come to find out they hadn't lived at that address in like 5 years....

I also have people that said they are coming and have told me they mailed their RSVP....I never GOT IT, granted we bought a house but we put in a change of address form and still nothing is coming to our new address....its quite annoying.

mekiakoo · July 2012

I know. We're still trying to track down 8 more people. All of them are saying that they're still NOT SURE if they can come!! Ok you know what? We need to know NOW!

butterflyjumper1 · July 2012

I am glad I am not the only one still dealing with this!!!

One of my BMs rsvpd with "and guest." she didn't write his name down. She told me she is still trying to track down a random man to be her date so she doesn't have to come solo.I CAN'T WAIT MUCH LONGER FOR YOUR MAGIC TO HAPPEN, SISTER. I need to know NOW.

do you think any of these people realize how mad they are making us?!?

bridetobe71412 · July 2012

What I wish I could have said to people:

"If you cannot take the time to let us know if you can make it by our RSVP deadline, you're not coming. Invitation rescinded."

butterflyjumper1 · July 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_july-2012-weddings_my-rsvp-vent?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:066005ef-215f-48b1-8655-328b41e07c52Discussion:2bdcca45-48c4-4556-ac7e-a8fc131c41f1Post:0fb8381b-c83e-4d03-a766-7795b9f1fe63">Re: My RSVP vent</a>:
[QUOTE]What I wish I could have said to people: <strong>"If you cannot take the time to let us know if you can make it by our RSVP deadline, you're not coming. Invitation rescinded."
</strong>Posted by bridetobe71412[/QUOTE]

<div>I wish I was brave enough to say this!!!</div><div>
</div><div>it's amazing to me how inconsiderate people are. amazing. I kept hoping that it wouldn't happen to me, after hearing all of your horror stories, but sure enough, it did.</div>

Melissa.hylton · July 2012

my mom checks her mail like once a month! She said everything important is done through the computer, ie: bills. She says its all junk in the mail anyway.

dawnleanna1 · July 2012

We have had ppl say they're "not sure" still too. I told FI that they have until tues/wed to make a decision. We have to send in our totals in a week! I'm not going to stress about it any longer. I am actually pretty happy with our guest list as of now

Next up.. Seating chart! That will be another headache

dawnleanna1 · July 2012

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[QUOTE]I am glad I am not the only one still dealing with this!!! One of my BMs rsvpd with "and guest." she didn't write his name down. She told me she is still trying to track down a random man to be her date so she doesn't have to come solo.I CAN'T WAIT MUCH LONGER FOR YOUR MAGIC TO HAPPEN, SISTER. I need to know NOW. do you think any of these people realize how mad they are making us?!?
Posted by butterflyjumper1[/QUOTE]

<div>Haha my cousin did the same thing. He is between girlfriends and I had a feeling that was why he hadn't RSVP'd yet. I text him yesterday and he says "Sorry I didn't send the card in I'm coming. Is it ok if I bring Dave (friend from high school)?" LOL. Sure, have fun with your man-date! Hahaha. Wth right?</div>

mbody · July 2012

I feel ya.. We had about 25 not respond. It's annoying. We had to track those down by yesterday because our final numbers and table assignments were due to the venue today. One couple is still MIA- never responded to my FI's voicemail or text.

butterflyjumper1 · July 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_july-2012-weddings_my-rsvp-vent?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:066005ef-215f-48b1-8655-328b41e07c52Discussion:2bdcca45-48c4-4556-ac7e-a8fc131c41f1Post:11a6bc06-2342-41ba-a5f0-a8e879489fa0">Re: My RSVP vent</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: My RSVP vent : Haha my cousin did the same thing. He is between girlfriends and I had a feeling that was why he hadn't RSVP'd yet. I text him yesterday and he says "Sorry I didn't send the card in I'm coming. Is it ok if I bring Dave (friend from high school)?" LOL. Sure, have fun with your man-date! Hahaha. Wth right?
Posted by dawnleanna1[/QUOTE]

<div>hahahhaa people are so silly. you would think your cousin might feel less awkward by himself than with a man date?? i am giving my BM until tomorrow - one week before our FINAL final head count is due - to tell me his name and whether he is actually coming. </div>

butterflyjumper1 · July 2012

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[QUOTE]I feel ya.. We had about 25 not respond. It's annoying. We had to track those down by yesterday because our final numbers and table assignments were due to the venue today. One couple is still MIA- never responded to my FI's voicemail or text.
Posted by mbody[/QUOTE]

<div>MBODY WE HAVE MISSED YOU!! i can't believe you are at the one-week mark today!!</div><div>
</div><div>but seriously? why is this couple ignoring your fiance? PEOPLE ARE SO RUDE. I wish people would realize that, really, we don't care if you aren't coming - in fact, it is probably going to save us and our families some $$ if you don't come - WE JUST NEED TO KNOW AND WE SENT YOU A PRE-STAMPED RSVP CARD FOR A REASON </div>

KatieK501 · July 2012

When my mom tracked down one of the people I asked her to, the woman said the same thing, about not checking her PO Box very often. Why pay for a PO Box if you're not going to check it???

I don't want to scare the July 2013 brides when we give advice, but I think we should prepare them for how frustraiting RSVPs can be. The wishy washy replies are the worst to me. Just decide and say yes or no!

bridetobe71412 · July 2012

One of my (very single) friends told me she was going to "figure out" a date for my wedding before I sent out the invitations, so guess what? She simply didn't get "and guest" on her invitation. Nipped that one in the bud.

Yah, I'm a b*tch.

butterflyjumper1 · July 2012

katiek I totally agree. I am fairly certain this has been the most frustrating part of perhaps the whole planning process, so far.

bridetobe71412 · July 2012

Also, my brother is bringing a man-date. HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA. I totally don't care though because he's super shy and I know it'll make him more comfortable to have someone there that isn't family that he knows well. (Plus, the man-date is the son of long-time family friends who can't attend the wedding. So, really, nbd.)

mrsmoxie · July 2012

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[QUOTE]What I wish I could have said to people: "If you cannot take the time to let us know if you can make it by our RSVP deadline, you're not coming. Invitation rescinded."
Posted by bridetobe71412[/QUOTE]

This would be amazing to do! My grandma, who I knew was coming even if she didn't send her RSVP, remembered to send hers in way before the deadline. I didn't think she would remember that because she's been diagnosed with beginning stages of Alzheimer's, but she didn't forget! If she has Alzheimer's, and didn't forget, then what's everyone else's excuse??

butterflyjumper1 · July 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: My RSVP vent : This would be amazing to do! My grandma, who I knew was coming even if she didn't send her RSVP, remembered to send hers in way before the deadline. I didn't think she would remember that because she's been diagnosed with beginning stages of Alzheimer's, but she didn't forget! If she has Alzheimer's, and didn't forget, then what's everyone else's excuse??
Posted by FutureMrs07282012[/QUOTE]

<div>My grandmother had a really serious stroke just over a year ago and suffers from serious dementia issues. She was the VERY FIRST ONE to RSVP to our wedding, and she chose her meal properly! if she can do it, ANYONE can do it - especially my dentist BFF who claims he never checks the mail. </div>

mbody · July 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: My RSVP vent : MBODY WE HAVE MISSED YOU!! i can't believe you are at the one-week mark today!! but seriously? why is this couple ignoring your fiance? PEOPLE ARE SO RUDE. I wish people would realize that, really, we don't care if you aren't coming - in fact, it is probably going to save us and our families some $$ if you don't come - WE JUST NEED TO KNOW AND WE SENT YOU A PRE-STAMPED RSVP CARD FOR A REASON
Posted by butterflyjumper1[/QUOTE]
I've missed all you guys too! I've seriously been so busy running around, I barely have time to sit by the computer. 1 week.. ahh!! I have my final dress fitting today at 2:30. It was supposed to be last friday, but they had to tweek a few things. So, I'm trying it on today and my mom will be taking it to their house. <div>
</div><div>Ya know, Paige stood up in this couples wedding, granted about 10 years ago and they don't see each other too much, anymore.. so, yeah.. I have no idea. </div>

TChiumi · July 2012

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[QUOTE]I am glad I am not the only one still dealing with this!!! One of my BMs rsvpd with "and guest." she didn't write his name down. <strong>She told me she is still trying to track down a random man to be her date so she doesn't have to come solo.I CAN'T WAIT MUCH LONGER FOR YOUR MAGIC TO HAPPEN, SISTER. I need to know NOW. </strong> do you think any of these people realize how mad they are making us?!?
Posted by butterflyjumper1[/QUOTE]

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</div><div>I have three different people who are trying to make this magic happen. I mean seriously you received a save the date and had 6 weeks to RSVP. If you haven't found someone one by now it's probably safe to assume it isn't going to happen in the next few days!</div>

KatieK501 · July 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_july-2012-weddings_my-rsvp-vent?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:066005ef-215f-48b1-8655-328b41e07c52Discussion:2bdcca45-48c4-4556-ac7e-a8fc131c41f1Post:c22316c0-9171-4ba5-a788-e32171496a6b">Re: My RSVP vent</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: My RSVP vent : I have three different people who are trying to make this magic happen. I mean seriously you received a save the date and had 6 weeks to RSVP. If you haven't found someone one by now it's probably safe to assume it isn't going to happen in the next few days!
Posted by TChiumi[/QUOTE]

I have a friend who likes to say "You don't bring sand to the beach". Tell them there will be other single people and maybe the magic can happen at the wedding - ha!

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