I am having two bridal showers, one hosted by one of my fiance's mother's friends and one hosted by one of my cousins. Since there are TWO showers, one for each side of the family, who gets invited to each one? From what I've seen thus far, the mothers of the bride and groom are invited to all, and immediate female family members -- but I don't want them to feel obligated to come to both if they don't want...How do I make the guest list for each of the parties?? Please help! :-)