Incorporating step-daughter

Re: Incorporating step-daughter

• brielleinlove member

  

  March 2013

  The general consensus you will hear is that children do not have a place in a wedding ceremony, which is between two consenting adults, and I tend to agree with that.  Also, she may not be comfortable with being in the spotlight like that.  I'd make her a bridemsaid or a groomswoman and leave it at that.

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• KatWAG member

  

  March 2013

  I would leave her out of the ceremony. It is between you and your FH. Maybe give her a necklace or something special the morning or the wedding to make her feel included.

  

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• jessielee20

  

  March 2013

  dont treat her any different than your own kids if you have any.. make her a brides maid ... this can make a big difference i know from personal experience...  just make her feel like your not trying to take moms place and that you want to be her friend..

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• bopple321 member

  

  March 2013

  I actually am a stepdaughter that was incorporated into my parents' wedding and it was really nice.  My step-parent (no kids of their own, otherwise they would have been included, too) realized that they were becoming a member of a pre-existing family and made a commitment to both of us.  I wish I could give you more details about what the ceremony entailed, but I was really little and only have pictures to remember.  Either way, I think it's nice.  Additionally, when my other parent got remarried I gave them away at the wedding (I was older at this point). TX might be right, however.  Catholic weddings might have different rules.  Neither of my parents remarried in a religous ceremony.

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• MobKaz member

  

  March 2013

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_ceremony-ideas_incorporating-step-daughter?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:10Discussion:ddbf2149-96d2-4a93-9b66-a5d0f897e778Post:8f9d89d9-c565-4e80-9d75-f9020bdaf442">Re: Incorporating step-daughter</a>:
  [QUOTE]For a Catholic wedding, you don't have any options to incorporate her except for asking her to be a bridesmaid.
  Posted by TXKristan[/QUOTE]
  
  <div>When the OP says she is having a "shortened" ceremony, it is not clear whether she is having a Mass.  If she is, the little girl could participate in bringing up the offertory gifts.  Depending on the selection, and the little girls willingness, she could also participate in a reading or perhaps the general intercessions.</div>

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• Calypso1977 member

  

  March 2013

  "shortened" usually means ceremony with no mass. 
  
  she could do a reading too.
  
  but in terms of being part of hte vows, reading a poem, or anything like that, she wont be allowed to do so in a catholic wedding.

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